Dating : Ive found a girl I like, but I can not get in contact with her
I live in a small town, its hard to find women that haven’t moved away for college. I am going to continue my degree, but I built a house here and have a good job at a plant here, so it will be online and I probably wont meet anyone in college like most other people my age. Theres a girl working at the local walmart that hasnt moved away in the past couple weeks, so I assume shes not leaving town for school, but Ive kept the possibility in my head to push myself into talking to her.
I am pretty shy and only once have I ever come up to a girl I dont know with the intention of getting to know her aaaand I had to be pushed into the locker next to her. Im proud of myself for the effort Ive put in to approach this girl, but I can hardly get anywhere near her. Most of the time Im able to make my attempt is weekdays at about 5:30 and the store is very busy. Shes always darting around the store, with another employee, and she mainly works in the womens clothes/baby/jewlery section where I have no business being. Its really stressing me out and Im trying my best not to look creepy, but Ive been there almost every day for 2 weeks or so, somebody is going to notice. Im almost wondering if it would be best to go gung ho and go straight to her regardless of other employees and such.
I just need help before I waste too much time and she leaves town or I look like a stalker.
Maybe approach her with the intent to purchase some jewelry for your mother or someone. That could be your in.
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She’s at work. There aren’t many ideal ways of approaching someone while they’re on the clock and can’t exactly respond in the manner that they normally would off the clock.
That being said, humor works wonders. If you’re goofy, be goofy! Whether or not she’s single, she’s likely to appreciate the laugh and the temporary breakup of an otherwise monotonous shift.
You mentioned she sometimes works in jewelry or the nearby clothing sections at the Walmart.
Ideas for interaction:
– Do you wear a watch? Waltz on up to her and ask her if she could help you get a replacement battery.
– Sunglasses are near jewelry. Try on a pair and ask her if they make your head look big.
– Do you have any nieces/nephews? Pick up two different toys or outfits and ask her which one says you’re « the best uncle ever ».
After you’ve made her laugh, tell her that you’d like to find out if she really thinks you’re funny or not. Ask her out. Exchange info. Most places don’t want their employees fiddling with their phones on the sales floor. Maybe have a pencil and mini-pad to jot down your name and number and/or get hers.
Please do NOT go in there with the guise of buying jewelry for your mother. For me, if you follow that up with an expression of attraction, then I’m going to think that you’re on the prowl for some side action (a.k.a. this guy is in a relationship already).
Oh! Assuming that you’re in the US, Back to School shopping is in full swing. If you’re in Texas, it’s tax-free weekend. Expect her to be extra, super-duper busy.
Best of luck!
Do report back. I’d love to know how it goes!
You sound a little creepy. « I’ve found a girl I like. » Because she’s one of the last available who didn’t leave town? You’ve never talked to her but have shown up to her job daily for 2 weeks?
Leave that girl alone.