Dating : new to dating and want to ask a guy out
okay so I’ve only had one serious relationship and that ended 5 years ago nearly, we were on and off the past year and a half but ended fully in January.
I’m 27 and I’ve met this guy who’s 29 that I volunteer with once a week, we have a good laugh. He’s socially awkward and so am I. I’m still a bit insecure and nervous about rejection. I spent a long time obese and miserable. I lost weight and worked on my mental health but dating still makes me very nervous. He drives me home every week despite it being a 20 minute drive so he’s actually really nice and caring but also sarcastic and makes me laugh. I know in the past it’s guys who usually ask to date but I wanted to put myself out there and take a chance but I literally do not know how to ask or anything… advice please?
Ask for his phone number or if he’d like to do something outside of the volunteer work
You have nothing to loose by putting yourself out there and giving it a shot. Sounds like you already have a connection so go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained… If he reciprocates, great. If not, don’t sweat it. There are plenty of men out there who would be grateful to have someone like you.
You just ask…its not that complicated lol.
If you think us guys do anything special when we ask you out we dont. We just suck it up, ask you and hope and move along.
Ask him out. like just to grab dinner. literally ask him if he wants to get dinner.
Here’s your line – « Do you find it sexy when girls make the first move or should I wait for you to do it yourself? »
First off, I wanted to say I’m proud of you for wanting to put yourself out there! It takes a lot of bravery to do that. Plus, he seems like a good guy from what you’ve explained.
I see an opportunity here to ask him out after your volunteer work. Since he drops you off, maybe you can say something along the lines of “I’m starving, do you want to grab a quick bite after this?” Just something that would give you the opportunity to spend time with him outside of volunteering. Though it’s not formally asking him on a date, I think it could be the start of something and progress into more later. No rush!
Just be upfront with him. Most guys dont take hints very well, so just go for it. The worst thing that’ll happen is he’ll say no. Then just move on and look for someone else
Ur a young lady. No one will reject you