Dating : All signs pointed to yes, got rejected? Need some guidance digesting this one….
Trying to get myself out there more with real human interaction. I’m weening myself off of OLD. I think I’ve been overall improving in my ability to read people…except today, I think. I hope you all can give me some angles to think this over so I can either figured out what I « saw » that wasn’t there or if this was just one of those fluke « shit happens quick » things. I’d like to think I’m not delusional enough to have imagined all of this.
I went diving this morning off a small boat with 7 other people. I ran into this woman on the dock who I found out was going to join us. Quick exchange and a coy smile from her and I went back to loading gear. The trip out was some cheeky small talk and regular chat, but always with the bashful smiles and I always would catch her looking at me…either turning away quickly or looking down and smiling. During the dive, the leader paired us off and we checked out the wreck alone before coming back up. T’was fun! Back on the boat we chatted it up and cheeky banter and smiles and laughs. We’d catch eyes a lot and it was a repeat of the morning. The married couple on the boat had chatted with her on the way out. Every time we exchanged a smile or goofy wink, I’d get a smile from them. Hell, when I went to ask her to lunch, the captain and crew left us alone. I’m pretty certain that I wasn’t the only one that saw something there!
« Hey Scuba Girl, Have any plans for lunch after this? I know a great place on the beach ».
« No, sorry. I need to get cleaned up and pack for a trip. I’m going to be gone for a week. Maybe next time. »
That let some of the wind out of my sails, but I ask to then just give her my number for when she gets back….which is met with the back of her head and silence. Awkward, deafening silence. After a few seconds of just standing there, I disembarked. I did have to get her to sign my log book but it was a totally different atmosphere. No banter, no smiles.
I’m a little confused. I won’t lose any sleep over this, but I was thrown off enough to come here for advice.
>Back on the boat we chatted it up and cheeky banter and smiles and laughs. We’d catch eyes a lot and it was a repeat of the morning
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>which is met with the back of her head and silence
If she was genuine about her feelings, which her actions were indicating she was, my guess is there is someone else in the picture or something you said turned off by a lot.
>which is met with the back of her head and silence
Still, that’s some shitty behaviour.
Sometimes women flirt for the fun of it. The way to know if she’s actually interested and not flirting just to flirt is to ask for her number and invite her out. You did the right thing and flushed out her true feelings for you. Or lack thereof.
Eh. Girls are fickle. You say one wrong word or the stars don’t align or some stupid shit like that and your out. Carry on soldier
Don’t worry about it. Something like this happened to me recently. I started talking with someone who works at a grocery store near where I live and we’d make jokes. She also told me some personal things like where she goes to school, etc. Eventually I asked her to coffee, she said yes after a slight pause and told me when she goes on her break. I showed up a few days later and she said her bf was coming/apologized. I said no problem and walked out. It’s still awkward when I see her but whatever, didn’t hurt to ask.