Dating : Am I being Crazy, Or Do I Have Reason To Be Worried?!
I have been casually seeing a guy for the past few weeks and things are going very well…we have been speaking every single day, going on dates a couple of times a week and just really enjoying each other’s company, or so I thought.
Here’s my issue –
It’s now 8pm and he has yet to message me today.
Now, I know there are probably a million perfectly good explanations for this and I know I am being totally irrational by jumping to conclusions – but, there is a small part of me that feels extremely anxious and worried that this means he’s suddenly changed his mind about me. I’m not sure whether to just give him space and wait for him to message, or whether I should just send a friendly text at 9pm saying “hope you had a great day☺️”. I get very paranoid about acting too much like a “girlfriend” and being overbearing, which is why I normally wait for him to message me first.
Of course I can’t be sure, but there is a very good chance he’s just busy. If he hasn’t been one to play games with read receipts in the past then I would say it’s even more likely he’s just busy.
I’ve just started seeing a girl who is so hot and cold with messaging it sucks. She is really pretty and I dread to think that she might enjoy sitting there on a stack of unreads from her shrine of men to feel good about herself. I guess the moral of the story is we shouldn’t stress about things we can’t control 🙁
You have only been seeing each other a couple weeks, so you should not be « *speaking every day* ». You started a bad habit that is not going to be maintainable,…and when it begins to slow down to something more reasonable then someone starts freaking out.
Don’t treat each other like BF/GF before you are one.
So, yes, you are acting insecure. This is the kind of stuff that destroys relationships before they can begin.