Dating : Am I overthinking? Or do I let it go?

Dating : Am I overthinking? Or do I let it go?

I (M30) separated from a long-time friend last year, and have slowly gotten back to dating. Two weeks ago I met this women (F32) on the usual dating apps, and we quickly met up for a picnic in a nearby park. The date went really well, the conversations were great and we had quite the fun. At the end, we briefly kissed, and agreed to meet up for a second date.

Afterwards we texted around five or six times to schedule the second date a week later, with her very actively going for the second date. This time, it was a very hot summer day, we decided to get a drink at a bar with A/C. Unfortunately there were no free seats left, so we had to sit outside, in the shade, but it was still quite hot.

Because of the heat I was a little distracted, and while we had a more serious conversation (work, future, goals, kids), the vibe wasn’t just as easy-going as it was the first time. When we left the bar after three hours we walked home to her place, arm in arm, joking and kissing.

Since we both had to work the next day it was clear that we wouldn’t spent the night, and stopped near her apartment. We shared a few kisses and I mentioned that I had to tell her something (I am a little allergic to cats, and she sometimes cares for one). Almost instantly she replied that she also had to tell me something. We joked around, but neither revealed their secret. She just let it slip that her secret would be something that I had to decide if I am OK with.

So we decided to tell each other on the next date. She told me to let her know once I made it home safely, and we saw each other off. When I got home, I showered and sent her a quick text that I am home and thanked her for the interesting and fun evening, despite the heat.

She replied the next day, likewise thanking me, and also making a remark about the heat. I replied that evening saying that the heat really was uncomfortable at times, and that I would like to see her again under better climatic conditions. I did not think much of it because I was expecting her to answer something like « yeah, that would be nice » and from then on schedule the next date.

However, she has not replied to this message for three days now, which is the longest span of non-communication we have had so far. I know she is with friends at her hometown this weekend, so she might be busy.

The simple question I have is: What do I do now? Sent another text telling her my available days for the next date? Call her? Just let it go?

She has always been very involved, has been fascinated with the picnic, blowing me kisses and grabbing my arm and hands while kissing on the way home from the second date. We had a funny situation where we collided with our faces while trying to give each other a kiss, and she quickly apologized saying that she was a little out of practice. So altogether I had the impression that she is interested and attracted.

Also, for what it is worth, on the first date we talked a lot about how important direct communication was, and that we both prefer to be direct when it comes to dating and avoid ghosting people, because we both had been on the receiving end of it already.