Dating : Cant be bothered talking?, I cant be bothered paying.
In my early to mid 20s (basically around 1999 to about 2006) I never seemed to have a problem getting dates and picking up women (unlike now where I regularly have to blow the dust off my cock), but this one really stands out.
Met this girl one night, we hit it off, exchanged numbers, exchanged texts etc etc (this was the era when smartphones were just becoming a thing). We ended up arranging to meet for a meal, « great! » thinks I, but no.
Turned up at the restaurant we had arranged to meet up at about half an hour early, there was no need to book tables etc as it was one of those places where you just turn up and wait for a table. 45 minutes later im still stood there, so I texted her to see if there as a problem, she replied with an apology as she was running late, ok, no problem. She turned up about half an hour later and we finally sat down, ordered and got drinks in etc.
All sounds ok so far doesnt it?, well, the alarm bells started to ring when I tried a few times to start a conversation, but got only monosyllable answers in response, or just plain old grunts,due to her sat playing with her phone.
Starter had been consumed and main course had just been plonked down, and by that point i was beginning to think she had forgotten how to string a sentance together, well, until she shouted a waiter over and ordered another bottleof wine for herself, this time picking a bottle which was a fair bit more expensive than the type she had been drinking at the start, and all the time she NEVER put her phone down, and to add insult to injury, as the waiter brought the wine over, he said something like « good choice » to which she replied « hes paying so I hope it is ».
At this point i was somewhat pissed off and getting tired just from watching her thumbs wiggle about over the keypad, so I finished my main course and excused myself to go to the gents, dunno if she actually heard me, as i didnt even hear a grunt in response.
Took me less than 3 minutes to have a piss, pay for my part of the bill and nope the fuck out of there.
Got a text from her about 2 hours later containing various names and expletives for « leaving her to pay », i replied back advising that she should ask her mobile provider for the money back, being as she was on a date with them more than she was me. Never heard from her again, cant say i was terribly disappointed.
TL:DR, i met a golddigga in the early 2000s and made her pay her own way.
She used you for a meal. Good for you to make her pay.
Pretty sure I’ve seen this exact same story on here before awhile back from someone else. Like exactly the same down to the mobile provider comment at the end.
she’s not a gold digger, a gold digger would have put more effort to keep you entertained.
Nice. I had a similar encounter once, although my date put a lot more effort into it than in your story. The way it ended is by me saying « I can’t do this, let me walk you to the station. »
If I got the treatment that you did though, I wouldn’t even have said a damn thing and walked out exactly as you did.
The alarm bells were you offering to go at a restaurant on first date and tolerating an hour and a half late.
As a girl, this is why I pay for my own meals on dates. I can order whatever I want, and no crying/pressuring from the other party.
Completely agree that as someone in my late twenties myself, dating hasn’t been so absolutely terrible 5-10 years ago, and while everyone’s had their dry spells, it seems like getting women is harder now, and I basically look the same?
Coffee is the perfect date. Inexpensive and very personal. You get to actually sit down with the girl and get to know her, and if it is going south, you can just finish your small cup and dip on out of there!
I’m beginning to think I might have to move to a rural community or remote island to meet a genuine girl
You did well!
There has actually been research about this dating phenomenon. I don’t think statistics are particularly useful in this case because it’s silly to start to assume that 1 out of “x” people are going to do this… but it happens often enough that they’ve labeled it a “foodie call”
I see nothing wrong with the way you handled it.
Yikes sorry she tried to use you for free food op! Glad you had the spine to not put up with it.
Always do a quick coffee on a first date.
Nicely played. Think I like you lol
Edit: oops, that was to reply to the link above. Lost my focus for a second there.
Wow, that girl was a total ho. Any phone drone girl is worthless. Walk out on her within 5 minutes if she is a phone drone, and insult her when you do it. Pay for nothing for phone drones.
I would do the same)
Don’t worry, you’ll meet a good girl!
This is hillarious. You did NOTHING wrong as you even paid for your half of the bill before leaving.
So she shat on you because she had to pay for only what she consumed?
That’s just beyond stupid and entitled. If onlu you could go back in time and order some top shelf drinks and stick her with the entire bill.
LETS GOOO! I really appreciate people that can stand up for themselves in situations like this. Just because its a girl and you fancy her doesn’t mean they should be able to use you like that.
Yeah….I want to believe this but my BS flag is flapping pretty good here.
Why not say *something* the entire time she’s constantly disrespecting you? You had plenty of opportunities to stand up for yourself in some regard.
If this is true I don’t blame you for dipping out and leaving her to pay but this story just strikes me as funny as
A. The restaurant allowed you to pay for only stuff you « ordered » and let you leave with 3/4s of the bill still unpaid. I’d assume if you were ordering bottles they wouldn’t just let you leave them on there, especially if they saw you drinking which I’m sure you were.
B. You just sat there and took all this abuse without saying one word, only to leave without saying your peace.
TL:DR, This is a typical bullshit story from reddit trying to convince men that all(most) women suck.
Satisfying ending. I’ve had similar experiences.
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How did you pay for your part? Just go to the front, tell the hostess your table and give cash? I wanted to be prepared for this plan, if required.
Yeah I did the same awhile back. Except without the paying my part. I figure if she’s gonna so blatantly waste my time she can pay for it lol. Never heard back from her so I guess she was too busy texting everyone else.
It’s faaaaaaake
Yikes. If she had nothing else, she certainly had The Audacity.
I have had this happen to me as well. I left to go to the bathroom paid for my portion and left. I did however tip my waiter a bit extra, separately, and apologized for the hell he was about to deal with. I understand if the date won’t progress past the one we are currently on, but either speak up and we can end it amicably or hell fake it through conversation. To have someone waste my time and clearly theirs over a potential free meal is fucking infuriating.
I couldve sworn you were talking about modern dating until you said early 2000s in the tldr. This is pretty much online dating to a T. The only part you missed was the rant that there are no more good men left.
I ain’t saying she a golddigger…
way to stand up for yourself
I thought you said gold nword for a second.
But in relation to your post,
Another one bites the dust.
You waited over an hour before she showed up? After 15 minutes I’m out the door…
Are you American, by any chance? I always tried to understand wtf is going on there. Where I live, nobody is « expected » to pay and basic social behaviour rules are expected regardless of gender. And I don’t think we have that many r/entitledpeople
Though it also sounds kinda r/thishappened to me. Who waits for 90 minutes? And there are many Incels making up stories to blame women.
You inevitability did the right thing OP. You lasted much longer I ever could have.