Dating : Dating Apps: Seeing multiple people at once or focusing on one person?
First time on Hinge and I guess I don’t know proper dating app etiquitte. I’ve struck up conversations with a few guys. I went on my first Hinge date over the weekend and it went really well! We’ll be seeing each other again tonight to go rock climbing and most likely later this week for dinner or something.
My question is, for the people I’m still talking to on Hinge, do they just kinda go on the back burner for now? Another guy has asked to go out this week, but I feel like seeing multiple people frequently will be emotionally exhausting. It’s my first time on a dating app so I guess I just don’t know what the norm is.
Until you are exclusive keep your options open. I’ve know many cases with OLD that the other person wants you to only see them right at the beginning while they secretly are not doing the same. Also there are a lot of people who want you to stack the deck in their favor so they don’t have to deal with competition because their low view of themselves tells them that if they had any competition they would always lose.
Exclusivity must be earned. When you are not BF/GF yet neither owes the other anything.
I was in the same dilemma last month, put my eggs in one basket and I’m breaking up with him tomorrow lol. See multiple people until you’re SURE he’s the one and know you really like him 🙂 best of luck
I dont see any benefit to dating multiple people at once. Ignoring all the where do find the time, how do you give a person a fair shake etc. the main thing is you are likely needlessly burn bridges.
If you are dating person A B and C at once and decide to commit to person B not because A and C are bad but B seems to be the best, you just burned your chances with A and C when B turns out to actually be a controlling asshole. If A and C have any self respect theyre going to reject you when you try and hit them up again. Also if any of them have self respect they will again reject you when they realize they are being strung along while you decide between them and other suitors.
See multiple people, but contain yourself. 2-3, 5 max, because you’ll quickly get into a cycle of serial dating and window shopping without giving anyone a real chance. It’s hard to juggle more than 2-3 people personally and if I tried they would all just mesh together into one entity that I’ll probably never take serious.
If I find out a girl is seeing multiple people…yes red flag to me. I’ve had multiple women tell me they have been on 60 dates in a year, which to me is a turn off. In the end it all has to do with your morals.
Every person will have their own feelings on it. Some people genuinely find it exhausting to date more than one person at a time. Some prefer to know right off their bat what their options are.
Personally, I prefer not to commit to seeing one sole person. It feels like I’m putting all my eggs in one basket, and I’d just rather not.
Just be upfront about it and make sure the person or people you’re dating are on the same page as you.
I think it depends on your attachment type. If you’re an insecure type (especially anxious attachment type) then you’re likely to get hung up on someone quickly. In that case it’s better to date a few people simultaneously, keep it light a d casual so you don’t come on too strong.
If not.. do whatever feels right for you! Whether dating just one person at a time, or a few, there’s no wrong or right, only what works for you.
Dating multiple guys is a risk. Many of us guys stay away from women who do that when we find out, as it’s a red flag of lack of confidence. Either that, or the girl really like to sleep with many men.
Don’t waste your time on one. Date until you’re married to the right one.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. See multiple people
See multiple people. Let’s say you close the matches for the other guys and focus on the guy you have been out with. Another date or two happens, and you just don’t vibe anymore, or he ghosts you, etc… Now you have closed the matches for the other guys, which leaves you with no options. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket, until you are in a relationship.