Dating : Do guys in this sub do well in online dating at all?
The reason why I am asking is because whenever someone here vents about online dating, comments about online dating, gives advice about online dating or posts about, is usually women saying how they met their SOs in there, and men complaining about how they can’t either get anyone, get ghosted or just get bots and influencers.
It seems to me that online dating has not smiled to guys in this sub, but only to girls in the sub. This is just an observation that I have made that can very well be very wrong.
Just wanted to put it out here and see what comments I get with other people experiences.
i get on average 1 match a month
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I still have both my kidneys and no STDs, so I guess things have been going well…
It works great for hook-ups but I have zero interest in finding a LTR online.
To start with, every woman that says they found their SO with online dating means the man they met also got lucky. I am a man and online dating was awesome for me. It all really boils down to how you use it and what you expect to get out of it. I only used it to meet people I would have otherwise not met. It worked great for that. I had plenty of matches, p.enty of dates, and then found the woman of my dreams. Di I have to go through a ton of bad women to find her? You bet I did. Did I have good luck from the beginning? Nope, had to rewrite my profile many times until I got it write. It’s like anything in life. It does take a little practice and a bit of skill. You can’t just go on there and throw up a few crappy pictures and think women are going to come running.
Lots of scammers. Lots of bots. TONS of liking ladies and getting nothing. And the rare times there is a message it last about three or four exchanges before she stops trying to carry the conversation at all.
Not much fun but the only way to get the largest group to pick from.
One thing to keep in mind is that the nature of the sub influences the audience it has.
Because of how our gender stereotypes work in modern society, women tend to be more willing to open up emotionally, *specially* when it comes to dating and relationships.
This is important, since it means that while women are just as likely to give and receive advice, men are much more likely to seek the sub just to ask for advice.
With Reddit being 74% male, there’s bound to be *a lot* of people here complaining about their chances in online dating, *because the sub itself is kinda filtering the successful ones*.
Yeah, men are not very lucky with online dating as a whole, when compared to women. However, the samples of this (and most) dating subs, are heavily skewed.
Then you have the MGTOWs and the incels that every now and again will pop their ugly misogynistic heads to swarm subs, etc.
TL;DR: lots of men in this sub have bad experiences, because it’s basically a sub for men with bad experiences in dating.
There’s something to be said about the shared experiences of daters here in these subs, but I don’t think a lot of it applies to the general word of dating outside of the apps.
Any which way, the people who are doing great with dating apps don’t generally end up here.
Nah, nope.
I dated for 2 years using online dating only, had 6 relationships during that time, and am now with my fiance. We’ve been together 2+ years now and have a kid together so I guess I’m successful.
Well, that’s because many women are more inclined to post about a success than their male counterparts are.
Also, for many (not all -I am a gay woman) women who write a success post on here is also explaining a success of a man.
I’m female and I keep getting ghosted, stood up, creeped out etc. All in a row too! At this point I think that I am in a sitcom or some shit.
Other dates have included:
-someone turned out to abuse their adderall prescription and take caffeine pills with it to pull all nighters multiple nights in a row
-someone asking for nudes
-getting bailed on last minute and told an hour was too far away (I sent him the location the night before too!) and then ghosting
-someone that was overwhelming because if I didn’t talk to them they would text “just remember how proud I am of you” or “you are an awesome person”. Dude barely even knew me. And he couldn’t take no for an answer for a second date. Wanted to ask me every couple of months
-going to a bar with someone that I went to hs with but didn’t know well and stuff happening
If you look at the studies Tinder did. They found women thought 88% of men on Tinder were not for them. That means the online dating game is better for women or the other 12% of guys. Not saying the 88% dont get lucky now and again. But you do the math.
For a while I didn’t. Then I figured it out. Have not been single since.
I do okay on them. Not so well on tinder but I’ve gotten good matches on bumble for LTR. I met my first gf on bumble and just met another girl I’m talking to exclusively now
I guess the way I structure my profile makes me seem more into long term things? I never get girls looking for only hook ups on these apps
Why would someone who’s doing well at online dating go on this subreddit?
If women are meeting their SOs online, unless they are all lesbians it stands to reason that guys are doing just as well.
When I was still doing OLD, I didn’t have a problem getting likes or dates. My problem is when it gets to the relationship stage
I actually do pretty well overall. I’ve had my up and down experiences, dry spells and times where I’m overwhelmed with matches, you name it.
I did great with online dating. Enjoyed it for years (despite the craziness) and am in one year relationship brought on by Hinge
OLD is killing relationships….Men, we need to go back to cold approaching…
I do, but it took me years to get to a point I’m happy with. It took me lowering my body fat percentage, improving my fashion, getting some real high quality pictures, moving closer to a big city, and then just swiping a ton and being patient.
OLD are my primary form of dating. I prefer it to approaching strangers, because I know that everyone on the dating app is there for the same reason I am. I tried 10 years ago to be the PUA who could chat up women in the club or in the mall, and I found it extremely uncomfortable and honestly, it just wasn’t me.
When used correctly, OLD can be used as a potent weapon to project your most authentic and attractive self, I just prefer the honesty of it all. I’ve had plenty of wonderful dating experiences, some short lived, some longer. Honestly there are skills and unwritten rules to online dating, just like any other form of dating.
I don’t even use this sub I’m just gonna take a wild guess and say no way in fuck
I’ve been on the apps for about 5 years now – definitely did much better before COVID happened. Honestly my experience (as a man) is that women anywhere between 18-35 are pretty spoilt for choice so once women are used to getting likes and matches from men who look like Instagram models and athletes, it becomes the norm for “quality”. If that’s the case. why would they expect any less from men?