Dating : Everyone else but me
Does anyone else feel like everybody is in a relationship but yourself? I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I have been having so much anxiety over this and I do not know why. It just makes me sad. Like I’m missing out on something. As a 22f I have never been in a real, committed relationship. Basically have had sex with people who gave me nothing. I hate having this mentality but it’s so hard not too. I feel sick to my stomach. I hate whining over this but it’s really been bugging me lately.
I don’t think everyone is dating, but sometimes it seems that way. I’m a 29f and haven’t dated since 2012. I’ve turned people down, and stopped looking. I used to care about not dating and desire that but with time I feel like I don’t really want to date. I don’t have sex with people, bc I couldn’t imagine creating a chemical bond and having them not care for me in a strong way or basically just want sex. Many people have the feeling everyone but them is doing many things like dating, sex, or job fulfillment. It’s common, but don’t stress if you want a relationship than you can try OLD to find someone. I don’t want to OLD, but maybe someday.
You are SO young!! 22! I understand completely how you feel but, sis, soak up the single life! Do everything you want to do… “date” yourself – take yourself for dinner, get a massage, go hiking… literally whatever you’re interested in. You have so much time ahead of you to be in a relationship – which are overrated 99% of the time anyway. They’re a headache most often. Just focus on you. Your goals and aspirations. Your bucket list. He (or she) will come soon enough.
As a person that works in a small 3D printing store (added for context; it’s not crowded), it also bugs me that almost everyone my age that comes in is with a partner. The extra annoying part is when the guy shows any amount of knowledge on the topic the partners act like they’re geniuses for knowing that.
I know I shouldn’t feel that way, but I can’t help but think that there must be something wrong with me, or I’m looking in the wrong places if I’m a pro in that field but I can’t get any dates.
Sorry I’m venting in your vent post instead of providing support, but I needed to let it out, and let you know that you’re not alone in that situation. It’s very unlikely that you’re the source of all the problems here. I’ll leave you with a quote that helps me when I think like that: “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.” Jean Luc Picard
You might be too picky. Do you meet guys from online dating. If so, what is your right vs left ratio, do you swipe left more than right?
I feel this, in a way. Ever since I came to terms with the fact I’m not in a relationship anymore with someone I still love, I feel like I’m the only person in my life who doesn’t have a partner. I know I’m not, but I’m so damn lonely now it feels that way. When I’m in public and see a couple holding hands or sitting next to each other the way we used to, I just get so depressed and feel like I have to leave. I just can’t bring myself to get back out there and date anyone else either, which is making it worse like I know I’ll never have relationship again because I’m not even trying. It’s hard making those connections and easy to be jealous of the people who have them.
It’s the common self introspection effect. You need something and suddenly you see it everywhere because you pay more attention to it.