Dating : (F23) I might be too needy
I’ve know this guy for three years. For the first two years we were in college and I didn’t really take him as serious. Now, post college, we’ve started talking again. It’s going really well and I am starting to get feelings for him. I’ve met all his friends and we’re pretty pda in front of them. They even have referred to me as his gf. I told him recently I liked him and he said he liked me. We left on an awesome note and I’m excited to see where it goes
BUT…
We don’t live in the same city and he’s not the best texter. I know he is not the kind of person to be on their phone. In fact, it’s rare I ever see him on his phone when were together. Which is good when we are together but sucksssss when we aren’t. I’m not openly needy but, it be nice to talk everyday. I feel like I have to start most of our conversations and plan the dates/hangouts. I guess my concern/question is how I do I get him to take the initiative, text me more, and or am I overreacting( if so how do I keep myself busy/okay with it)
‘How do I get him to take the initiative..’
Hello there, M23 here. As someone who has been living in a long distance relationship for years i can tell, the most important thing is to be honest.
If you do enjoy him, just talk to him as openly as you can. Tell him about what you want and what you are struggling with. It’s always better to talk about everything at the start, rather than let problematic things or situations come up later – because they will get bigger. Is he into it – both of you can work on the things that stand between you. For example, since he’s not really spending much time on his mobile phone you can at least make up a time (7.30 pm to 8pm) to meet in skype or whatsapp everyday.
Don’t push too hard quickly – because if things are working out everything else will fall into its place.
Good luck 🙂
ps: you aren’t needy, it seems like you really like him – so don’t be afraid to show him