Dating : Have you ever approached someone in a supermarket?
Hey guys
I’m asking this because I have never done this so far, despite the fact that I had and still have numerous opportunities to do so.
With that being said, how many of you have done this so far and how did it work out for you? Also, how exactly did you do it?
I can’t remember if I ever approached girl in supermarket but mall or street are pretty much the same.
I usually say (in polish) « Excuse me » (because girl usually didn’t see me or didn’t expect me to start talking to her) followed by « I saw you and I just wanted to say you that you look nice » or « I saw you and I think it would be cool to talk with you » or something similar. Nothing spectacular anyway, I am focusing on being nice and make situation comfortable for her at this point, not about being Casanova.
Important thing: dressing well really helps.
Girl can react in many ways but if you’re respectful then even if girl really don’t wanna talk with you, she will most probably inform you about it in polite way.
Girl can be more or less responsive, more or less surprised and of course somehow interested or not interested at all. You need to adapt to that. If reaction is more positive, you shouldn’t rush for number but just talk (even go to cafe after few minutes of talking, I did that many times), the more time spent with girl, the bigger chance you will not be remember just as a weird stranger but as Mike/Jim/DeAngelo or whatever your name is. If girl is clearly not interested just wish her nice day, maybe say « I hope I didn’t make you feel uncomfortable » before that.
Be prepared for doing more talking, if you ask her about something (for example « are you from Warsaw? » if you approached here in this city), after her answer tell her where you are come from, where you are currently live and why.
I did something like it 100-150 times in last 4 years, don’t really remember any aggresive responses, worst I remember is one girl didn’t stopping, saying « I’dont have a time » without looking at me. Most girls were ok with talking with me, significant part of them didn’t give me number though, usually saying they have boyfriend. Approach to date conversion is circa 20% (circa 10% for most attractive girls, 30% for girls that were attractive but closer to my cut line). I had few serious relationships from that.
I was approached by someone at the grocery store – he came up to me and said something like – I don’t mean to be bold but I think you are absolutely beautiful. Would I be able to take you out for coffee sometime? I said, I appreciate that but I’m in a relationship. He apologized and said at least he tried.
I’m also curious and have no experience, please guide us brave people of the dating world
I saw it happen to someone else. They were in the chip aisle… I don’t know how the convo started but they eventually exchanged numbers! (I was browsing chips for a while to hear a lot of it lol)
Yes, im sure ive done this many times. Dont remember the results. It doesnt matter what the results were lol. Just do it.
I have had this happen to me and I didn’t know what was happening until the cashier told me the next time I was in. I was buying one thing and this guy came running up out of breath and said something like, “I crossed the seven seas to get here, have you ever heard of that?” And he had no groceries and grabbed like a pack of gum or something. I just was like “uh, idk but have a good day!” or something and left because, i mean, what do you say to that? The cashier (they all know me pretty well since I suck at grocery shopping) later told me he said he saw me walking into the parking lot and had hurried to catch up with me. I didn’t like that and wouldn’t have said yes to going out with him, it was a little much and it made me uncomfortable since it’s MY grocery store, like he was stalking me in my safe place.
But oppositely, I wish a guy had talked to me recently in the same store. I saw this guy who was completely my type which rarely happens because of the neighborhood I live in and he definitely was looking at me. But I had smoked weed on the walk there (I live in LA, so legally) and was just in an oversized sweatshirt and had headphones in so I kind of just kept shopping, and when I saw him hovering towards me, I got embarrassed (i was high) and ran to the check out. I definitely could have been more approachable—I think he played it all right because if I had smiled or some other signal he probably would have said hi but the headphones and me being a weirdo was probably off putting.
So I would say two things—be conscious of how the other person is, and consider since if it’s a local grocery store you may be in their safe place, similar to a gym. I’ve definitely avoided places after awkward encounters and a grocery store is kind of ritualistic place. But also, don’t be a stalker about it. Thats probably good advice for all situations in life.
I did. A woman in the wine department, looking lost and out of her element, so I walked up to her, straightened my apron and said « ma’am, if you’re looking for the rest of the cabs, they actually skipped over the end cap chardonnays before wrapping around into the merlot section. »
She told my manager I was very helpful. 10/10 nailed it.