Dating : Help I’m Stuck
I’ve been in this relationship for 5 years. It started out great but since I feel like I’ve grown up and he hasn’t.
I can’t take him to parties or he’ll get too drunk and say something offensive to someone. So, I’m sober and babysitting. If we stay too long he pouts. If I take too long in the grocery store he pouts. If I say something he doesn’t like he pouts. He never wants to do anything other than go for dinner or have drinks at home but, if I do something he later decides he wanted to do (ie go to Mexico with my mom instead of my boyfriend, or even just see a movie he didn’t realize he wanted to see) you guessed it! He pouts.
I know I care for him and he’s a great emotional support in my life when he’s not pouting. I’m scared to be without this kind of backup in my life now that all my friends are married and levelled up. But I also know for a fact I can’t handle this relationship the rest of my life. At its best I’m happy but bored.
There’s a long list of other things at this point but I’ve been trying to convince myself this is the right thing to do for two years. See, I tried to break up with him when he was being grumpy on Christmas two years ago and he cried so I chickened our. Fast forward to now we don’t live with each other, I’ve chickened our 3 more times, and I’m positive that’s the only reason we’re still together.
Has anyone been here? Send help?
I’ve been in a relationship like this.
Just make an agreement before you go like: You want to stay for atleast 3 hours, then we can leave if he wants to.
Next time he can get you somewhere else and you make an agreement how long to stay.
I once left my dad at a swimming pool early because my SO wanted to go, I didn’t really wanted to go…. that was the last time I could have swam with him because he died of cancer later on. Don’t be like me.
Other than this you need to go with someone else…
Why not sit him down and have a serious discussion about how you feel the relationship is going. If you don’t think you can even do that successfully with him, it’s time to end it.