Dating : How do hook-ups work?
Hey all,
I am crazy inexperienced with the dating scene. I am recently out of a relationship, and still don’t know if I am completely over my ex. We have children together, and it’s difficult. But I have been incredibly horny lately. I have never « hooked up » with anyone before. Both my past two relationships were long-term, and they are the only people I’ve slept with.
I’m on a couple dating apps, and guys keep asking me if I want to cuddle and « watch Netflix » and whatever. I figure that’s them trying to get laid or whatever, but I really, really don’t want to cuddle, or hold hands, or anything. I just want sex. Like honestly if it were up to me, I would just invite them in, fuck, and they’d leave. Cuddling and all that just sounds awful to me right now, and a huge turn off.
Is that unusual? How does one initiate « hey come over and let’s fuck », when they’ve been flirty and seemingly interested in sex? Is it normal to just ask that we skip the whole « let’s cuddle up and watch something » thing or whatever? I don’t know how this works. I don’t know how to ask guys if they want to have sex, haha. Sorry if this is a dumb question. I am not thin and super hot, so it’s not like I can just ask random guys if they are down to fuck, can I?
I may be wrong here, but I imagine most guys offer the « cuddling and Netflix » so they come off at least bit tactful, but most of them would be totally down get with getting off and getting out. If you’re not trying to date them why does it matter if they think you’re « trashy » for just wanting sex. You can literally just say « I really just want to fuck you ».
You most certainly can do whatever you want. It’s your dating experience.
There’s plenty of guys that go on tinder/dating apps and they plainly state that they’re looking only for hookups/sex. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a woman doing the same thing. If you want to get laid, do your thing. And don’t worry about looking trashy. No one cares. Hooking up is very prevalent in today’s society, so I bet most people wouldn’t judge you online. I guarantee you’ll be bombarded by replies if you look for sex online. Doesn’t matter what you look like.
Dating apps can be super straightforward if you want them to be. Just say your looking for casual sex from the start and if they are too, they’ll be completely down.