Dating : How do I find someone genuine and not looking to use me?
Every single time I would go out on a date and do something with an girlfriend(now ex for obvious reasons) they would always try to make me spend as much money as possible even though I don’t even have it. I try to make them happy and get what they want then they dump me. I’m a 20 year old guy from jersey and every single date I have been on has ended up with me showing up but the other person not. Having to hear complaining and spoiledness from my date. Rudeness or just them basically saying that I’m not in it for the feelings I just want your body. One woman literally said that she was a lesbian but she went out with me anyway because she thought I was lonely. Like wtf. I’m convinced it’s the area I live in. I’m honestly convinced that it’s the area I live in which is why I’m running into all of these people who want to take advantage of my kindness/money/decency or body.
Edit:grammar
You’ve got to be up front, I think. Let them know on the first date what you want and that you won’t stand for being taken advantage of for your money or your body.
It’s your duty to set up boundaries. Start the date with _ »split bills or no date »_ if you have to etc.
> they would always try to make me spend as much money as possible even though I don’t even have it
Then don’t spend money on them. Have a simple first date (coffee or drinks) and move on from girls who only are in it for money.
Stop spending money on women. You don’t have to, I never do until date 5