Dating : How do you guys cope with being alone?
I (27M) grew up with this idea that I’d be married, have kids a big house but years later none of that is true. I screwed up the only real relationship I had in high school and every girl I’ve met after that never saw me as someone they’d want to be with. I’ve picked up hobbies over the years to deal with it. I jog, I play video games, I started reading, I enjoy whiskey by myself and began indulging in marijuana.
I started traveling alone last year and it was great at first but once I went to the country I always dreamed of visiting it’s like I no longer have a goal to pursue. There are still a few places I’d like to visit but I know once I’ve done it I’ll feel empty again. I know I should be happy but I get really lonely. I’m in good health, make a lot of money and have lots of people that want to hang out with me but no one that can keep up. It’s like the more I accomplish the more I feel alone.
I’ve been asking for dating advice for some time here but the majority hasn’t been helpful. It ranges from be more confident in myself to all I’ll ever have is prostitutes in my life. It’s frustrating being alone and dating obviously isn’t on the table for someone like me. I guess I’m just ready to accept being alone but I don’t know how.
Why do you think dating isn’t for you?
acceptance, then plan your day knowing the possibilities for the week….
Yo, be careful with the drugs maaaan…. daily use can fuck you up, especially when you begin enjoying them more than anything else in your life (which can happen when you’re staring down the deep, dark pit of loneliness day after day).
I think I know at least a little bit of how you feel… I have been single for the past 6 months after a very long committed relationship. This is the first time in my life since high school that I’ve been single for such a long time… I do feel lonely quite often, and just like you I like to travel however everytime I get to a new place that I’ve always been wanted to set foot to, my heart is filled with excitement and the sense of satisfaction, but then, « now what? ». And yes, that is the « emptiness », the hole in my chest, the part of me that would always long for a sheer happiness, a pure completion, a deep-rooted peace in mind… I am in no better situation than you to give an advice, you’re already doing a great job finding new hobbies, enjoying yourself without the need to depend on others people, and having great income as the fundamental living essential. One last thing you need not to worry about is to intensely search for the right one, much that you’d get disappointed and drag yourself down when things don’t turn out as wished. You wouldn’t want to stay around those with frown eyes right? I believe if we keep working on improving and learning to love ourselves first, and to live our life with the utmost passion for things we love, then somehow, in the process, people will naturally find you interesting and unexplainably (is this even a word?) attracting, and usually that would be at the moment when you are the least expecting. 🙂
Keep your head up and keep on charming!
I have anime and video games and good friends.
After going through a bitter divorce, I don’t mind being alone. I have never had problem talking to women unless I was interested in them. Some of my best friends have been women.
Once I let go of finding someone, women keep popping up in my life. When the smell of desperation is gone, it gets so much easier to just talk to someone and get to know them. I won’t lie….good looks and wealth obviously boosts everything, but you need to go outside of your normal life and discover new things to add to what you have to make things interesting. Great advice seem like dime a dozen on here. Easy to give, hard to replicate. But you piece meal those together and find what works for you, that’s how it can help. At the end of the day, you just need to find your niche.
*Loneliness is but man’s fear of living.*
A simple proverb but very true. Live your life as the free bird that you are and find enjoyment in living life as a free agent. Once you do this, you will find the right person.
I go outside a lot. I ride my bike. I got some legit friends that wanna always hang out. You need something like that bro
I have dogs.
Weed. Lots of weed.