Dating : How many men on OLD are looking for a relationship?
Most guys I (26F) seem to only meet guys who want to hook up, and when I do express any interest in being in a relationship, they get scared off. I wonder how many guys are interested in a relationship nowadays, if they’re really just looking for hookups, or if they just can’t see themselves being in a relationship with me specifically. Also because guys I do get involved with and won’t commit to me, shortly after things end (or overlapping tbh) they get into committed relationships with other women.
It is hard to find men that are in their 30s looking to date younger women unless they have been through relationships and know exactly what they want OR they have been too busy with life and failed to settle down, but still are too busy with their worklife to do so now. I was in a long term relationship that was going nowhere and I was really busy with work. It took a failed investment to really re-prioritize. Now I (39M) is dating someone (26F) and in a serious relationship for a while now that is actually getting worked on. I can’t believe how I can now balance work with personal life. But before I was the type to work 60-80hr weeks and thought the occasional expensive dinners and buying things just patched up issues.
So older men may just no longer want to settle down and want just hookups for now so that they can enjoy and not get bogged down in investing into relationships. Obviously this will change by age. I wasn’t ready to commit to something until last year when I met the right someone.
If I had to bet I’d wager that most guys are like me and are 100% open to a relationship with the right person, but want to hookup in the mean time while they’re waiting to meet that right person. Since probably 99% people won’t be compatible with each other, and one person is therefore not interested in a relationship with the other but still willing to have sex with them, you get a lot of “why do women/men only want sex?”
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Actively looking , 47M work in construction, no beer gut, work out , compassionate and loving.. cook , bake and clean , struggling to find relationship…
I find the same shit with females. They want to mess around but you bring up a relationship and they run away
I am older and looking for my forever
Look for older guys.
30 and looking for a commitment
There’s plenty but I couldn’t say how many you’ll find. I guess it depends on what exactly you look for.
I can only speak for myself (50). My entire adult life I have never had a successful relationship. Seeing as I’m the common denominator, I’ve come to the conclusion it’s me that is the problem. So 6 1/2 years ago I decided to remove myself from the equation. I haven’t dated anyone since and yes that includes sex. I’m now to the point where I can no longer go without the touch or companionship of a woman. I’d settle for just cuddling with a woman and watching movies. It’s impossible to explain this without seeming like all I want is a hookup or one night stand. Women my age think I’m immature and afraid of commitment. Truly I’m just saving them the heartache of dating me.
I was, but then i poached my sister’s friend, which was way more pleasant than old.
I’m making a huge assumption here and idk what OLD is (assuming it’s like tinder) but you’ve gotta realise your own value on dating apps. Girls get a LOT more attention than guys on dating apps so guys will often swipe on girls they aren’t attracted to just to try to hook up.