Dating : How often do you and your SO text?
I (19F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for two years. We’re both busy through out the day so our conversations are really spaced out. Usually ranging from a half hour to hours.
At work, I get it because I can’t pull my phone out too much at all. But otherwise, I try my best to sneak text and I always check my phone and try. Usually I’m left seeing that he hasn’t responded yet & he always takes forever. I’m not worried about cheating or his disinterest because I know that’s not the case and he reassures so himself without me asking by saying how much he misses me and what not, without me initiating so either. But it does hurt that I know I prioritize talking a lot more than him. And we don’t get to see each other often either which makes it 10x worse. He seems hurt when I’m not eager to text him or don’t feel sad when he leaves, but I honestly just get sick of waiting around so much that I’ve borderline stopped caring. Doesn’t feel healthy or normal
TDLR; my boyfriend and I don’t text well time wise. How often are you and your SO talking?
Who gives a shit about texting. As long as you see eachother regularly, that’s all that matters. If they never have time to hang out, then get worried.
Coming from a long distance situation:
During the work day, I can expect my boyfriend to take a few hours to text back. Even then, it is quick messages or continuing a convo. If it is something important then he is quicker to respond, but if its just me showing him a cute panda he will message back when he gets around it. We both initiate the conversation tho. At night, max 30 minutes unless he has fallen asleep or is out with friends.
You two need to work on communication, outside of texting. Call, video chat, whatever. But if you are getting distant (and maybe a bit petty) then your relationship will fail.
Never. #foreveralone
How long do you mean by hours? I sometimes even take 3 or 4 hours to reply depending on the evening. Sometimes it’s nice to take a step back from the phone or you just might not be in the mood to text.
People have very different texting habits so theres really no right or wrong answer. Dont spend your time waiting for them to reply.
Me and my ex boyfriend (dated about 7 monthe) wouldn’t text each other sometimes for a couple days at a time (like 3 or so days), and most of the texting only involved figuring out when we would be together. I would spend most of the week every week with him, so it kinda didn’t matter too much. If you’re spending plenty of time together, the texting shouldn’t matter. He always said he liked that we took that time to ourselves. I do think that’s important, but everyone is different in terms of what they need and every relationship is different. I just wasn’t that attached to him realistically – though I loved being with him – so that was part of the reason I personally didn’t text him that much. Just didn’t feel the need. In other relationships, I’ve texted daily at least a little. I prefer not having full on conversations through text and prefer saving it for face to face interaction so things aren’t misconstrued. I basically never do sexting through text either, just light flirting and save the rest for later. With my recent ex, I normally waited for him to initiate the texting so as not to be over bearing since I knew he liked having some time to himself. He kind of controlled the relationship in that regard, things were just always whatever was best and easiest for him and I let him initiate most stuff. Dunno if he really liked it that way, but that’s how it was. I broke up with him though, not the other way around.