Dating : I (20M) hate everything about the dating process
So I’ve been single for a year now and I’m someone who literally hates talking in general and I hate when I get the courage up to ask someone on a date or something and just get shot down I wish that it was more widely accepted for the woman to make the first move.
Dude – care less. If you do end up getting a match or meeting a girl and you come across in the sort of way that demonstrates you don’t usually get matches or meet girls then it’ll be obvious to her and a turn off.
Everyone would like a special someone but there’s a certain amount of aloofness that most people have in dating these days especially at your age, in some degree or another. Unfortunately scarcity breeds value so A) get over your disliking of “making the first move/approach/chase” by doing it over and over and over again until it’s natural (I don’t care if you hate it, if you want someone then you don’t get a choice, unless you’re lucky) B) it’s easy to build up someone into something they aren’t when you don’t have an abundance of choices and this can come across as a touch needy, C) sure women get to pick and guys chase (shouldn’t) but on the timeline of life you typically get the advantage when it comes to ageing.
Spend time on yourself (cliche I know but it’s true). It’s amazing what can pop up when you aren’t even looking.
Best of luck bro
Idk I’m a girl and I definitely ask out guys that I think are cute.
If I want something, ain’t nothin’ getting in my way!
Why do you hate talking? That makes you unapproachable. People wont be able to get to know you if you dont openly talk to them.
Ah, worn out and cynical by 20. Just another decade or so of this fun to go, don’t worry.
Seriously though, take a break when you start getting jaded. Feel better
Any time I see someone still college age saying how they’re tired of blah blah blah, I just have no sympathy. You were just born dude chill the fuck out
I hate the whole “I don’t know where I stand for the first few months” period.
> I’m someone who literally hates talking in general
Typically before a girl will fuck you, there will be talking.
There are some out there but the quality is low.
If you want women to make the first move you need to make yourself seem more approachable. Don’t worry, assuming you reside in the United States, dating will become easier when you’re 21.
Usually girls dont ask out guys they deem at there level and below them. They’d ask rich supermodels in a heartbeat if they could.
But for real though Id say you have to meet a special girl to ask you out. Not special as in you know special as in one in a million type.
Girls hate being rejected as much as we do, so they hide behind the dating steriotype that men should ask first cause it benefits them.
Ideally it should be both ways but in reallity its always the one that ask the other out who likes them the most right. Men just gotta man up and ask her out as they say.
Women get to say yes or no. , but they don’t get to choose.
Men get to choose.
There’s a sense of freedom in there somewhere .