Dating : I (22f) met somebody (25m) that I am interested in and I am at a loss of what to do about it.
Hey there fine folks!
About a year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. It really gutted me, but I’ve been doing all the necessary work (no contact, etc) to move on. Good news! It’s working! I’m no longer sad. I haven’t been looking for a partner, as I’ve been really enjoying time on my own, but last week I met somebody that I LIKED despite myself.
Now really, I’m not the sort of person who falls easily. I’m very particular with the friends I spend time with, let alone romantic partners. I had a brief fling with someone I went to highschool with earlier this year, but it was a purely sexual dynamic and ultimately not worth too much of my time.
Anyways, a few days ago at a party (wholesome), I ran into another young man I went to highschool with back in the day. He was a few years above me, and we never really talked until he was in a philosophy course I took my first year of college. Since then, I’ve bumped into him every now and again and have enjoyed our conversations quite a bit. We talked for a long time about poetry and art, intelligent animals, travel, philosophy, adventure, and our individual family dynamics. Woof. I think I appropriated my body language into letting him know I was into him, but he didn’t really reciprocate too much (I don’t think. I was mildly drunk). He left after we chatted it up for a while. We definitely vibed, but it was hard to tell how much. My mom said I ought to just tell him to get pizza with me, or something, but I can’t deny I’m a little freaked out over being rejected. Not to sound like a pompous old poached egg or whatever, but I don’t think I’ve been rejected in my life. I think this guy is a real catch, which makes me even more nervous. I don’t think I’d be hypothetically settling with this kid.
Leaving for the east coast tomorrow for two weeks, and I’m thinking of messaging him over FB or something to see if he wants to vibe/keep it tight/eat pizza/go for a walk in the woods when I get home. Halp I am scared I don’t understand the minds of men too well and I am AFRAID of the UNKNOWN.
I guess I should also mention that in the past, I’ve always just told guys I’ve been into that I want to fuck them, which is true, but I lowkey want more than just to bone this particular motherfucker (frustrating.) I did not expect this.
*TLDR;* wanna ask this guy out but I’ve never done such a thing before halp
Best advice I can give is be confident about it. He might have the same feelings start with a small date and don’t rush it. As a guy sometimes we can be very dense and not pick up on signals quickly especially if you two have known each other a long time. But most of all be confident in your self and you go girl.