Dating : I asked a guy out. I did it guys.
I asked a guy out for drinks. We met up. He paid even tho I asked him out, totally prepared to pay for everything. And now we are officially dating. I took a chance. I went ham. I said fuck my insecurities.
I landed a unicorn. He has respected all of my boundaries. He asks questions. He does not judge me for my past. Its incredible.
Just go for it. Ask that guy out. Ask that girl out. The worst thing is they say no and you move on. Do it. You should be happy. But you will never know until you try.
Edit: I am a girl. An over weight girl at that.
Edit 2: I appreciate every single one of you. And it’s so uplifting and moving to see that I could inspire even a few people. You are all worth more than you believe you are. Even just pretending that you feel that way can inspire change inside of you. That’s what I did and it worked. Good luck my loves!
I have to know, how did you do it? What were your first words? How well did you already know the guy?
Ugh congrats babe! So happy for youuuu! Giving gals like me hope
I imagine 1000 times a day to say her sitting 2 tables opposite to me everyday in co-working space. I wish I could tell her. I will change the co-working space from 1st of next month and she will never see me. I kinda started liking sad stories lately.
It’s crazy how when you go out of your shell and just do it you realize you were scared for no reason. I went for it and asked a really cute girl (way outta my league) out a little over a year ago and she rejected me. Even though it didn’t go too well I quickly learned there’s really nothing to be afraid of. We’ve been dating for a year now and she’s awesome 🙂
Good on you!
That’s awesome!!! Congrats. It’s a good feeling to ask a man out and he says yes.
I’m so proud of you and happy. that things are working out so far! Take things at you guys’ own pace, continue to get to know one another, be open and honest, have some fun and things should be fine!
This is just an observation of mine, but there seems to be some insecurity regarding self-esteem and body image based off of your edit (“I’m a girl and overweight, at that”). You being “overweight” really doesn’t matter as you’ve gotten a date with someone who now wants to be exclusive despite that. It’s 100% okay if you’d like to work on your appearance, I just don’t want any confidence issues arising later within the relationship (or at any time) because you weren’t more confident in the first place. You are 200% worthy of love no matter your size or how you look. Maybe check out body positive advocates such as bodyposipanda—she’s amazing and helped me on the journey toward loving myself and my body.
Best of luck!
The worst thing isn’t that they’re say no, the worst thing is that they’re all say no and it’ll begin to be a waste of time.
I find it a thousand times more attractive when a woman takes the initiative instead of me, a guy, always having to take the lead. As along as shes humble about it and not to aggressive. It shows she’s willing to include others in what she wants and not just worried about what she wants. It also opens up lines of communication and shows a willingness to be truly vulnerable, allowing me to see who she really is. I don’t always have the answer and it helps me figure things out knowing what she thinks.
Good job, congratulations!
Congrats. I just don’t think if I’m into the dating game right now. I took a break from all that because I haven’t been feeling like it for some time
Congratulations! You go girl 🙂
That’s great!
I wish more girls would realize that, I’m not afraid to ask someone out but it is nice if a girl would ask me. It’s a great boost to the ego and makes the anxiety of the whole ordeal easier.
Is the guy also fat?
Good for you! I think a lot more women should have the confidence to ask guys out. Yes, a woman might be rejected if she asks a guy/woman out on a date. But guys have to face the same thing all the time, and they are the ones culturally expected to do the asking out. So I appreciate seeing people breaking the norms 🙂
Good. Overweight girls need love too.
Congrats!!! I wish I had your courage!! I know some day I will say « Fuck my insecurities »
You’re an icon! Nice job.
That’s awesome. You are lucky but most importantly you are an inspiration 🙂 thank you for sharing your story and I wish you all the best 🙂
Congratulations!
This is so cute! I’m happy you’re happy!
Nice! Wish more girls would be like this. Thought this girl in my psychology class was really cute and we talked a few times. I wanted to ask for her number but i always chickened out. Idk it seemed like she didnt wanna talk to me but also she did. Yesterday was the last day of class and i didnt even say bye. My heart wanted to go after her but my brain kept saying no.
> He does not judge me for my past
What about your past did you fear he would judge?
Are you still using condoms