Dating : I feel like I don’t have much to offer.
Since I’ve met her I’ve sort of felt this way. She’s the most amazing person I’ve ever met, and she has the most amazing hobbies and interests, and she’s good at practically everything she does, and she does a LOT. She’s always putting work in on her farm, she can dance really well, she knows the lyrics to an unbelievable amount of songs, she loves horseback riding, she gets up early every morning and keeps the cleanest neatest home, she’s always crafting things and is super artsy and creative, and she always has so much energy. I love everything about her. She has so many hobbies and interests and I love it. I feel like those things are part of what makes her the amazing person she is. And although I really enjoy doing just about anything, I sometimes waste my time and can be lazy, and I don’t have nearly as many interests or hobbies that I’m passionate about or particularly good at like she is. (We’re both about 20 btw). I want to be a part of all of her hobbies and interests and just her life in general, and I feel as though I don’t have much to offer in terms of adding things and hobbies to our life together.
There is no need to add something to her hobbies if its not what you enjoy. Sometimes it is more than enough to be her cheer leader.
It seems pretty obvious that you admire this girl, but I also feel like its dangerous territory comparing yourself to anyone. Why not see this as a positive aspect, lots of people have loads of hobbies, and lots of people don’t. You don’t need to force yourself onto something, but you will know in time what you enjoy doing… some people just know their interests earlier in life.
I’m sure you have good qualities about you, and I’m sure there are things you are good at. You just need to be a little more confident in yourself
First of all, you are extremely too young to be inadequate about yourself If you really like her and don’t have any hobbies of your own, get off your butt and join her!! The average woman will be more than happy if you can provide genuine, unconditional love, concern, and emotional support. Thats a start
You just described somebody I know so perfectly I have a hard time believing you aren’t who I’m thinking of, and she isn’t who I’m thinking of.
If you really want to date her, ask her out on a date. Or if all you really want to do is spend some time with her, alone, ask her if she’d like to hang out, just the two of you. Don’t be afraid to try and add yourself into her life, because that’s all you really need to add in.
That last few sentences is what made me respond. « I want to be a part of all her hobbies and interests » – Don’t do that. Her interests are hers and yours are yours. It’s great if you share an interest, it can lead to great times but, you have to find your own interests. Even if you share one or two, but don’t try to share them all. Nothing wrong with her doing her thing and it not interesting you in the slightest. « Go do your thing babe » builds independence, autonomy, etc.
well you have a penis and 2 healthy hands + a tongue?
only thing that you dont have is some confidence. if she is with you. .. she likes what you « offer » – even if you dont like it yourself.