Dating : I have a crush on this streamer.
24M here. I have a crush on a streamer who is 24F. **I’ve never dated anyone in my life** but I really seem to like her. About a month ago, I found her stream because it was Canada Day and I told her « hey I live in Canada too! » And then she smiled at me on facecam and the Nightbot linked me to her Twitter. She asked me whereabouts of Canada and I told her the approx city and she said that too on stream. So I gave her a follow on both Twitch and Twitter. She followed me back on Twitter only 3 mins later but to this day hasn’t followed me on Twitch. She even says that she recognizes me from Youtube and she asked me to link my channel in her chat. Guess what? She sub’d according to my email notifications.
Throughout this time, she has liked ALMOST EVERY Tweet I posted on Twitter. I only post about my in-game achievement screenshots on that. I have a decent following on Twitter just like her. I even liked some of her Tweets although she does a lot of retweets or some 1-line tweets. On my Youtube, I have a VERY solid following + great views per month. I even have a decent following on Twitch but not as much as she does. With that said, I have a feeling she is quite interested in me. She even accepted my friend request on Discord and I even joined her server.
I haven’t done my face reveal yet but I will soon (most likely end of month). She seems to like my personality. I really think she’s right for me because she’s not « too good looking like an attention-whore ». She doesn’t have too many thirsty people either. And she is a very nice non-toxic person. I spoke to her more to get to know about her life and she’s in university still studying. I know we don’t have many hobbies in common aside from gaming/streaming but I’d be able to adjust. She seems to like gaming a lot though. I haven’t seen ANYONE this good of a match for me in many years.
One thing that might turn me off is she used to date a girl. Based on her ~2017 tweets, she posted love photos with a girl. However, I have yet to see any relationship photos anymore. She also doesn’t even follow her so by the looks of this, they probably broke up. I don’t know what’s it like for a guy to date a girl who is(was) lesbian. I have nothing against LGBT but I just don’t want to date because they might act differently. Now obviously this was creepy of what I did but I wanted to know about her as a person and what types of stuff she likes.
I wonder when I should ask her to meet up. I mean we’re relatively close geographically. Should I wait until I have a face cam stream? Or should I wait until she follows me on Twitch (despite following me on Youtube/Twitter/Discord)? What should my next step be? I want to make this a good relationship but I have zero experience in this.
Oof.
Honestly, if this woman of which you speak were to show me this post and state positively that you were talking about her, I’d tell her to run.
It’s perfectly acceptable for you to have a crush on someone. However:
Her living in the same country does not mean that she’s into you. Her living in the same city does not mean that she’s into you. Smiling does not mean that she’s into you. Following/liking/commenting on your social media does not mean that she’s into you.
>I really think she’s right for me because she’s not « too good looking like an attention-whore ». She doesn’t have too many thirsty people either.
^Your reason for her being « right for you » is that you view her as obtainable. That’s not fair to either of you.
>One thing that might turn me off is she used to date a girl.
>I don’t know what’s it like for a guy to date a girl who is(was) lesbian. I have nothing against LGBT but I just don’t want to date because they might act differently. Now obviously this was creepy of what I did but I wanted to know about her as a person and what types of stuff she likes.
^lolwut Dude. IF she’s a lesbian, then she’s definitely not into you. You’re an adult with internet access; you have a plethora of info at your fingertips. I encourage you to educate yourself (not porn).
> One thing that might turn me off is she used to date a girl.
Why is it a turn off?
>I don’t know what’s it like for a guy to date a girl who is(was) lesbian. I have nothing against LGBT but I just don’t want to date because they might act differently.
Do you know if she is even interested in men?? If she is Bi and interested in you then to her it won’t matter that her ex was a woman and you are a dude. Not sure what you mean by « act differently »? She’s Lesbian or Bi not an alien species.
My advice : Forget about her. She’s a streamer who just happens to live in the same city as you and is being polite. This is something she either does as a hobby for fun or as a profession. Similarly to hitting it off with your server at a restaurant you cannot make assumptions of interest. If she is genuinely interested in pursuing a friendship (or relationship) with you SHE needs to be the one who reaches out so that no boundaries are violated. I would not risk making her uncomfortable after she’s been so friendly.
Personally, I think you’re reading too much into just a few of her actions. Continue to converse and watch her stream sure but don’t push it.
Keep it professional, she’s probably just being friendly, but I’m not telling you to not shoot your shot so good luck.
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Bro.. you just have to talk to her and feel out the situation. If you aren’t sure about something, just ask her.
If I were you, I’d try hanging out with her online first, play games together or simply voice chatting. See if you have any chemistry and build up rapport. If she makes time to talk/hang out, that’s usually a good sign. Assuming she hasn’t seen what you look like, sending some pics needs to be done. Bait and switching her by drawing her in with your personality for a while is good strategy if you’re ugly or something, but it’s pretty skeezy.
I feel like you’re making this a bigger deal than it needs to be. She either likes you or doesn’t. If she has any interest at all, asking shouldn’t be problematic.
I’d just caution that it’s only been a month so she probably doesn’t have any legitimate romantic feelings at this point. She may ‘like’ you though, but that’s different from knowing you and wanting to date you.
Edit: Send her a picture first before you even bring up the idea of meeting. Otherwise you’ll definitely come off as weird or creepy.
Crazy. I’ve never dated or met people thru the internet so I can’t give solid advice. Just wanted to say good luck and hopefully someone here can help you.
Just ask her right now? This is basically like a way more complicated I matched with a girl online when do I ask her out. You already talked and are in the same area idk what’s stopping you. I was talking to a girl online and we sent like a total of 15-20 messages between each other and asked her out. About the lesbian thing it does throw a wrench because she could be bi or she could be a lesbian. It’s dangerous because she can flip it to lesbian anytime throughout the dating phase as a easy let down. She most likely was just experimenting stuff.
tALK TO HER U GUYS ARE HUMANS NOT ROBOTS