Dating : I like this girl alot but she’s gay… Is it possible for a girl that’s gay to like a guy?
This is a question for the girls sorry guys, unless your gf is gay and your dating her it’ll be nice to show me what kinda happen’d otherwise enjoy the read!
Abit of background story, I met this girl 2 months ago at a tramping trip, I’m from NZ and she’s from USA after meeting her we got along really well, we had so much in common to music hobbies and so on…, I added her FB and we texted for abit and she told me she way gay, which I was super bummed out as I didn’t know, knowing this I didn’t mind I thought to myself ill just be her friend. After hanging out together for 2 months I can’t help but wonder if she feels the same way I do at all because I love being around her I feel way more confident and more open and im not gonna lie those 2 months have grown on me and I I’ve started to have feelings and I don’t have feelings like this that easy. Like I don’t even feel the way I do about her to my parents and siblings, « sorry mum, dad » but I still do love my parents
Anyway I think she knows I like her but I told her in a way which was really vague 2 months ago when we met. And so we kinda just forgot about it. Also we’ve hung out together before just us, and we were planning to hang again but she got food poisioning which was really unfortunate as the trip we were gonna do was 2 days and she was leaving in 3 days.
Fast forward till present time she leaves back to USA in 3 days by the time your reading this it’ll be 2 days which has me pretty sad and emotional I’m meeting up with her tommorow to hang and hopefully I’ll be there to say goodbye to her at the airport. Anyway I like this girl alot she’s abit older than me but she knows that and we still get along and enjoy each other’s company.
the point is, is it possible for a lesbian to like a guy maybe Im just overthinking it, I don’t know if it’s possible and honestly I wouldn’t change anything about her. I’ve never had anything against gay people or the LGBTQ community and I know most of her friend are in the community so for a straight guy I’m worried that if I tell her I like her alot our friendships gonna end as she’s told me shes accidently led guys on before.
Anyway any advice would be nice from a girl that’s gay or a guys point of view that’s dated a lesbian.
She can *like* you, and she probably does if she’s hanging out with you. She just won’t be *attracted* to you.
Just like you’re attracted to girls. If a gay guy were to pose this question about you, you would say that you could be friends with no long-term potential for anything past platonic.
Unless she explicitly shows interest in men to you, then no. She told you she is a lesbian. Show a little respect for her and don’t read too much into your relationship. Don’t be that dick that decides that they must be the *one* exception to a gay person’s gayness and tries to “convert” them. Nothing will wreck your friendship faster.
The questions on this subreddit though..
Do you know what « gay » means? It’s like people think that it’s a fluid concept or that they can change someone. Tell me this, if another guy was REALLY into you, would you date him? Would you change your entire sexual orientation for that person, whether they were cool or not?