Dating : I think I’m done.
Hey, fellow men. This is just basically a vent.
I’m not sure how many of you can relate but this has been my experience so far.
In my 23 years of my life I haven’t been able to even secure one date let alone girlfriend no matter what the avenue, cold approach, online dating etc.
I’m honestly tired of self improvement. I physically became buff you know like those men you see in male fitness magazines, I got a decent job, I got far more confident then I ever have been, I groomed myself, followed fashion tips. I tried to get out of my comfort zone a lot. I’ve been told I’m a decent looking guy, attractive and all the spiel but clearly the lack of any success contradicts this notion.
But, i think this it. I’m going to wash my hands from this and give up on women. I’m not able to meet the ridicoulous standard set by women. I’m tired. I give up.
I just want to roll over and stop all this pain and loneliness.
Its not the ridiculous standards women have set, but their ridiculously inflated egos that are stopping them for actually being happy. I see this all of the time, hell even I made a post the other night about this. And I dont want to seem like im attacking women, but because youre a guy Im obviously going to form my opinion about women. Although there are some women out there seeking relationships, most arent…unfortunately. Im in the same place. I hate the idea of my ego but I am well accomplished, intelligent, attractive, and very secure with myself. However I have been single for 5 years. I blame hookup culture and trends that manifest in their heads and play like a broken record. Like I said, not against women at all, I love them. However our generation and culture in the west has brought the downfall of dating. Not sure how its going to turn out when we hit 30 but I do hope they realize and mature(sure they will). Good luck, dont give up but take the chances as they come. Thats all you can do and its all I can do.
Honestly, I feel like love comes along when you least expect it. Work on self-improvement in terms of finding something that you’re passionate and happy about to the point of not feeling lonely anymore. Whether that be finding a new hobby, hanging out with friends or travelling, do whatever makes you feel emotionally full. And when the time is right, you’ll definitely meet someone who loves you as much as you love her.
How come you never see posts like this from women? I know women who have been chronically single with no luck and they NEVER write posts like this. This is bordering on the attitude that women owe it to you to notice you, and that you’re being cheated out of something you deserve. And I’ve seen a few responses that are validating you saying it’s because women have high standards or because they just want sex. Well no, maybe it’s because of this attitude that you’re adopting. The chronically single women I know carry on and learn to live their lives independently and figure if something happens that’d be great but if not it isn’t anyone’s fault, and if it was it’d be their own.
You obviously failed to be confident and comfortable on your own. Sire you may be confident in other aspects of your life but projecting loneliness only makes your reality such… Lonely.
In no uncertain terms you have a life to live and need to enjoy yourself. Work hard, have fun. If someone comes along during your journey then that is a bonus but you do not have to have anyone.
You may not appreciate that until you have gone through the heartache of many to only realize that as a part of real growth. But I figured you may pick up something from what I have to say here.
Have fun