Dating : I was dumped for wanting to see a drag show
I(34f) was dumped today after mentioning a few nights ago that my male friend was entering a drag beauty show and I wanted to go and support him. I didn’t even ask him to go with me. To make it even better he followed that with “you wanting to go to something like that means our political views are probably not the same” I’ll leave that for you to interrupt yourself, but I’d say I have to agree on that.
Bullet dodged and a month wasted but I’d say I’m on the winning side
You weren’t dumped, you were given the gift of time. Instead of wasting more of it on someone that is fundamentally incompatible, you were given back who-knows-how-long to spend your time doing other things or with someone who is more compatible. He’s allowed to have any kind of deal-breakers he wants, including « You don’t share a prejudice I do », and you’re allowed to think he’s a biggot and a Neanderthal, but all of it doesn’t really matter as long as you find that early rather than late and go your separate ways. You also didn’t waste a month being with him, you invested a month in a possible future with someone that might be compatible. As soon as it was clear you were not, you parted ways. There’s no waste there, you did everything right.
That guy was so afraid of seeming gay now he doesn’t get to sleep with a woman either lmao
Neither of you was on the “winning” side or “losing” side. You guys just probably weren’t compatible and that scenario was an indication of it. That’s it…seriously guys why does everything have to be a competition nowadays with dating and relationships? “It’s their loss” Like no maybe they just weren’t a good fit for you and vice versa and that’s okay no need to take it personal and downplay the other person to make yourself feel tall. Everyone is always trying to 1up the other person instead of focusing on what really matters: finding someone that you mesh well with and that brings you happiness & peace
I don’t know if I’ll ever see a drag show or not but it has nothing to do with my political views .
To make a statement about politics tells me that person has a few things to learn .
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>bullet dodged and a month wasted but I’d say im on the winning side
Hed say the exact same thing word for word.
You guys just werent compatible is all, its a draw, i say.
It’s why I get political affiliation vibes out of the way pretty quickly even if people claim to be “apolitical” I’m totally cool with that but it’ll never work if we don’t at least agree that Trump was a POS.
He wasn’t into it, nothing wrong with not enjoying it. He foresaw issues in the future based on your enjoyment in such things. Doesn’t make him a bad person. You two weren’t compatible. Not even worth a reddit post.
I feel like couples with conflicting political views don’t last long? Is this the case?
You both dodged a bullet. You should date social liberals and they should date social conservatives and moderates.
So? People get dumped all the time for anything and everything. This is not remarkable in the least bit, as it makes sense to stop dating someone if you feel your values are not compatible.
Everything about your post sounded fine until « bullet dodged and a month wasted but I’d say I’m on the winning side ». Obviously you didn’t post this just to share a story; this is your cathartic release in an attempt to get over the rejection since you found him to be a great guy. Which is definitely okay! But it doesn’t sound like you’re accepting it at all; that last line makes it sound like you’re in severe denial about your true emotions.
There is no winning side here and nobody is in the wrong.
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Let it be what it is and allow your heart to guide you to the next action. This will always result in the best action.
Good riddance.
I don’t support any “you go girl” or “atta boy” posts for anyone in any context. Regardless of what happened, this dude also wasted a month’s time trying to get to know someone he thought would work out, too. So this doesn’t merit any celebration at all. Downvoted bc people need to stop automatically coming to people’s defense and celebrating break ups in general.
Your values directly correlate with politics. He is saying your values are not in line with his.
I’m glad for your loss, because it’s a win in disguise. What a piece of work he seems to be.
This was a very respectful thing for him to do. He saw and realized it would never work and wanted to make sure neither one of you would keep wasting time. This is better for both sides. I hope you enjoy your show « they can be a blast btw » and your life and I hope he does the same. Neither side is in the wrong just wrong for each other.
I’m sorry to hear you even had to deal with this.
Honestly I’m so tired of hyper-masculinity where men are so afraid of “being gay” that they can’t do or support anything that might make anybody think they like men.
For example: drag shows, seeing two men kiss in a tv show, sleeping in the same bed as another men. To me it just shows either insecurity in themselves or just general closemindedness and possible hatred. Frankly he sounds like a guy you wouldn’t want to be with anyhow.
Yah you are on the winning side wat a fukin loser that guy support your friend hope u find someone that makes you happy
I mean I understand his point of view. Y’alls views don’t align with each other. You both were probably looking for a serious relationship and we all know that different political views are no good in serious/long term relationship.
I laugh every time somebody thinks that they are better than other people.
Thank god you only had to waste a month of your life on him.
Wow he’s a weirdo. It’s a good thing you were dumped