Dating : I’m getting frustrated with other peoples standards for me… yes. I said that. I admit its pissing me off a lot. 22 F
I swear if it’s not one damn thing its another. Its always about shit that I can’t help. I am in this crossroads where I regret having standards myself because it feels hypocritical to get mad at everyone elses BUT at the same time there’s no fucking breakthrough at all when it comes to others feeling attraction toward me.
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Guys said I was too fat. So I lost weight.. then it was this and then it turned into that. I know many fat, dumb, ignorant, judgmental, unsuccessful, evil, bipolar, shouldn’t be allowed to communicate with society, gummy toothed, annoying, fake ass people in relationships and yet every time I meet someone its like I’m attractive but somehow their still repulsed to think of me in any other way or they just don’t feel like I’m good enough for their standards. Its the same way with trying to get internships. Their standards are high for me but low for everyone else that has locked down an internship with them. I have tons of experience, lots of examples, and its like, no, you’re not it.
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I swear I’m stumped. I somehow fumble getting a relationship online… it doesn’t even go past step 1 because the guy looses interest, switches up and then pretends like I just imagined how they WERE coming onto me, or the guy tries to get sexual too soon, or they are being abusive. In real life, I get no attention whatsoever. Its as if I’m invisible or they just do not see me that way.
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I just don’t get it and I’m sick of this shit. Yet, if I were to be impossible to please, people would swear that I’m « doing too much », « being too judgy », » not giving others a chance ».
While I was reading the post I could smell the bitterness through the screen!
What dating sites are you using and what is your end goal with them?
fake it til you make it, have confidence but not too strong. good luck
You are gonna face criticism no matter who or how you choose to be. You have to find a way to be that you’re okay with, and that you’re okay taking criticism over because it works for you.
Some lifestyles can lead to more criticism than others. Basically bucking the system. But for some folks that’s the only thing that works.
And then you have people like me, who chose to in many ways go along with the system in order to try to exploit it and get something out of it, but it still comes with downsides and criticism. I would say there’s not as much but it’s still there.
I hate it when people say this, but I do believe sometimes you find someone when you least expect it. I hope that some will dislike you as you are. It might be someone you’d never expect.
A few years ago, I’d given up on dating. A few months later met a guy. I’d catch him looking at me or giving me a smile like he was excited to see me. I’m as plain as they come, but I guess he liked something.
I’m just sharing this to encourage you not to give up. The negativity might lead to missing out on good people who do like you.