Dating : Is not always saying « I Love You » back a red flag?
My ladies….So when it comes to saying « I love you » my boyfriend has an interesting approach.
In my previous relationships and the relationship I’ve seen around me, ppl throw the words around all the time, when they’re about to leave the house, a habit, you know?
For my boyfriend, he does not say it back often as his perspective is that he does not like to throw the words around like they’re meaningless. He’d prefer to say it during a romantic moment where the mood calls for it, when it would seem more special.
If I say it during random times, he’ll usually respond with « thank you » to appreciate the love. Is this strange or weird? Red flag??
Everyone do things differently with how they use I love you. In my family we use it when someone is leaving or going to bed, as a way to show affection. So when I’m with my boyfriend I will do the same, the words don’t lose meaning for me because I truly mean that I love him and my boyfriend is the same.
I am exactly the same as your bf. Those words are a very strong meaning to me. If said I mean it from my core, about your complete core. If said I don’t mean it in the sense of: « I love you for the way you love/make me feel. »
I feel those words are thrown around about too many things nowadays (people say they love their coffee, how can I fucking love my coffee, it should be « I like my coffee »). Therefore if I said I loved my coffee and my partner, they are both loved the same and in the same intensity, which is obviously not the case.
It is a matter of meaning of words and perspective – so no, imo not a red flag.
I dislike it when women say « I love you » over and over again. And I completely agree with your boyfriend.
Actions speak louder than words.
it depends if ur new or in long term relationship.
If you are new, don’t say it often. Let the man earn it when he did something great then say ily.
If your long term together, it’s actually just in normal daily phrase to say.