Dating : Is the guy (27M) that I (26F) am dating still active on Tinder?
Been dating a new guy for about five months. Early on I deleted tinder and told him as he asked why I disappeared. I’ve asked him a few times about tinder and he said its still on his phone but he doesn’t use it. Anyway I asked him a few days ago because something felt off. And he paused for a very long time before repeating the same as before. That it is on his phone but he doesn’t use it.
Something didn’t sit well, so I created a fake tinder (stalker esque I know). And I saw he was on there with the same photos as when we met some months back. But the location is up to date.
What I would like to know is does the location on tinder update in the background if you are not using it? Or does it only show distance if the app is in use?. And yes we had discussed only being with each other. I’ve met his family and friends etcc. And where do I go from here? Trust him? Talk more? Ask to see his Tinder? Ask him to delete from his phone? Just cut ties?
Please help a gal out!
TL;DR! Suspect guy im dating is still using tinder after saying he wasn’t!
> I’ve asked him a few times about tinder and he said its still on his phone but he doesn’t use it.
Come on stop being naive. You should have checked out right then and there.
Yes hes using it. If his profile was inactive for the past few months it would be at the very bottom of the deck and it would take a lot of swiping to get to ti.
That’s a difficult one! The location on tinder updates when you open the app but if you dont open it, the location stays the same from when it is last in use. So the location only changes when opened again in a different location.
It could be that he last used it (albeit however long ago) at the current location it says now, like where he lives etc. But doesn’t mean he has been on it recently.
As far as I know tinder doesn’t really show very inactive profiles in the Match queue straight away. Did you find him easily or take a while?
If you feel like this guy is lying to you about using tinder, then you have to ask if it’s worth it.
Best thing to do is ask him directly.
Better to have an open discussion and hear the truth instead of thinking about what if… what ifs will drive you crazy.
This is too much a few months in. There’s no reason to just keep tinder if he’s exclusive with you, if you guys haven’t had the talk and you two are just casually dating then he has every freedom to be on there. It sucks but you’ll come off as controlling if you tell him to delete it and you’ll come off crazy if you said you stalked him. Just communicate if he’s currently dating other people? Or if there’s a reason he chose to keep the app instead of deleting his profile.
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This is black & white. He’s fishin’ for other chicks and he does not respect you.
Your only option is to decisively DUMP him, unless you do not respect yourself.