Dating : My dates don’t have the same taste in music as me.
I’m (26M) living in New Jersey. I’ve always loved Alternative music (The Killers, Kings of Leon, Fall Out Boy, Taking Back Sunday, Cage The Elephant). Ever since I started dating in my teens I’ve only met one person who has similar music taste. Everyone else liked Hip-hop, RnB, or Pop. People can like what they like. And I’ve fallen in love despite music differences. But, ideally I’d love to have some of the same favorite songs as my significant other. It’s nice to enjoy an experience as simple as listening / dancing to a song two people really like. I’ve tried to get into other genres of music, but most songs are meh at best. So my question is, what are other people’s thoughts on music taste compatibility when it comes to dating?
It’s tough. Most girls around me like country, or rap, or whatever. And that’s fine, those genres have their own place with good artists in every category, but to find that girl you really vibe with is tough, but super awesome when you find it. I went on a date last week with a girl that had super similar taste in music and it made me like her a whole lot more than I expected to, and it doesn’t seem like she’s nearly as into me so it kind of just complicated things in my head. But they’re out there. Going to concerts is one of my favorite experiences to share with someone, and you can do it with someone that supports your interests, but it’s so much more special to do it with someone that loves it just as much as you.
i met someone who had sooo sililar taste in music two months ago and i fell for him super fast and hard cuz it felt as tho he understands parts of me no one ever before came close to; cuz we talked and listened to music and showed each other stuff and both spend hours on end on youtube just looking and listening to different versions of certain songs and artist talk about the creative process…
it felt like he could get me on some levels i havent been understood before by another human being.
at one point we just sat on his couch listening 21 pilots Storyteller performance and it was the most beautiful half an hour ever. Ever. With few soft kisses and staring at each other and just listening.
its over now and i’m way more ruined by this, than i was by ending my last relationship which lasted more than two years.
so if nothing else, i’ve learned how much music really means to me and that that is something i want in a partner. it raised the bar.
I actually think it is kind of important. I mean not a deal breaker of course but yeah I really love music so it does kinda suck when you cant share that with someone
make a game out of it. When you’re driving somewhere you pick two songs, then she picks two songs, etc.
or, tell her you want her to make you a mix tape/play list of her favorite music, and you make her one of yours for her
or, send each other 1 song a day that you like/think the other person might like
I really feel like music matters nothing at all when it comes to compatibility of two individuals. If you’re rejecting nice girls because they don’t like Fall Out Boy, then I think you’re being foolish.
Sharing your interests and learning about your SO’s interests is one of the joys of dating.