Dating : Not to sound flippant, so many people in this sub have problems that can be solved by literally just meeting more people.
Why dwell on bad dates? Getting ghosted etc by people who clearly would not give you a happy relationship anyways? You just got to go on many more dates!
The problem is they cannot get more dates. That one date they go was probably one they got after months and months of trying; that is why they put too much value and emotional investment in it.
I kind of disagree with this, these ‘problems’ usually exist because we give that other person more importance than the rest.
Myself, I’ve dated a different girls these past months, yet there’s always one that makes me worry much more about doing something wrong, and that’s because I’m more excited about things going well with her than with any other woman. Like I feel like a strong link between us and it just doesn’t feel the same with anyone else.
But yes, I get your point, there are many people that won’t go on date for a very long time and then they will just try to force it to work, even if there’s no chance at all.
So many people in this world have problems that can be solved by literally just making more money
This is the crux of Reddit my friend. I am all about go out, forget about this soul mate myth, meet new ppl, talk, and get downvoted to hell. Most Redditors are very idealistic IMO
It’s not as easy as it sounds for some. Meeting more people requires a bit of confidence, so does handling rejection.
I know people who take rejection very harshly and it makes them question their self worth every time. For someone like this, although they want a connection, the rejection isn’t worth trying again. It’s just too hard.
I mean, yes, but some of us have small dating pools for various reasons, small towns, religious reasons, etc. Granted, there are ways to fix those, but until it’s doable, it still sucks. Personally, I’m waiting until I go to grad school since I know everyone here and there’s no one I’m gonna date here. That’s just me though
It’s quite like fishing.
Gotta get your line wet.
I only agree if people think that “ghosting” is rude if it happens to them after a few days of conversation or convo and one date – the other person is not the jerk if they can see that it’s not a good match even if you thunk it is, and they don’t need to explain this to you if they just realized they’d rather not continue dating or start seriously dating their other options because all they’ve done is do what everyone does on tinder (have a convo, maybe go out)
> Not to sound flippant,
What you’re supposed to say just before being flippant
I think people sometimes have a hard time wrapping their head around the fact that sometimes people just don’t like you back, and they themselves don’t know why. You don’t need long-winded explanation on people’s behaviors at that point. Just move along.
For instance, I do not like people who live with a new agey set of values: good vibes only and never address any problem. But to explain that stuff to another human being just seems like you’re attacking them as a person and leads to a huge argument over nothing productive. So best to just ghost and be ghosted in that case.
Easier said than done.
It’s extremely rare that I find somebody that I even want to go on a date with tbh.
I’m dating somebody right now kind of and shes awesome but before that it’s been years since I was even on a date.
I was in a long distance relationship before and I’m not doing that again so I only want women who live CLOSE, and I’m just not attracted to women heavier than me and I don’t want to get involved with single moms either.
I have social anxiety, Timothy.
I also tend to not find a lot of people attractive. I don’t have a crazy sex drive. On the rare occasion that I do, I’m all in, and I’m stuck. I’m not sure how to mediate that.
To go on more dates, you actually have to get those dates. Pretty difficult to get more dates when all you get is ghosting, no replies to messages and rejections.
I’ve also messaged virtually everyone in my area on POF and liked everyone in my area on OkCupid, so there’s not a lot I can do at this point.
Lol your probably right