Dating : Post- breakup
Hello everyone! I was wondering if I could get your insights and opinions on my situation please! So I met my ex bf on tinder… I know I know but we didn’t hang out until like 2 months later. Well anyways once we met things went suuupeer slow he didn’t kiss me until the 8th date or so, well anyways we dated and I was so happy and I was really starting to open up and feel things for him.
Then comes the breakup, he broke up with me Bc he will be joining the navy and he told me that in case something were to happen to him he didn’t want that to hurt me etc. He was very emotional when he was telling me all of this which is what leads me to believe that he was being sincere, since he didn’t show much emotion when we were dating.
When he broke up with me he told me he would miss talking to me every day and I told him I would too, but here’s the thing it’s been almost 3 months and we still talk everyday, we see each other occasionally and sleep together too. So now I can’t help but wonder what’s the difference between our relationship and what we’re doing now??? The only difference is the title and we don’t go on day long dates like we used to!
I’ve brought it up to him but he tells me the same thing about the navy. Does he just not want commitment? If so why would he ask me to be his gf in the first place? Should I talk to him about it once more and Give him an ultimatum even though it would kill me to stop talking to him? It really hurts me that we aren’t together and I miss him and our relationship. I felt so happy and when I would see him all of my worries and stress everything would go away. We have so much in common together. He made me feel things I’ve never felt, I still have strong feelings for him too that just don’t go away 😞. Im torn and have no idea what to do at this point.
There may be a possibility that he misses you just as much as you do him; it seems like he doesn’t want to let go fully yet.
Alternatively, he could just be stringing you along until he’s deployed – like getting as much sex and affection that he can get with someone he knows will say yes.
I wouldn’t give him any kind of ultimati
um; maybe just ride it out until he leaves and try your best to move on afterwards.
that’s what I was thinking too, he doesn’t want to let just as much as I don’t. It’s just so difficult knowing he hasn’t left yet like we could be together but instead we’re both suffering. It just makes me so upset It has to be this way :(.