Dating : Practically no « likes » of women my age. But who does?
I figure it’s a pretty common topic. I’m a male, 25, and have a relatively rich (although I still consider it bland) dating life. Two medium-term dates over the past year; but I want more.
Reinstalled Tinder again, although I know it will most likely be of no use. I’ve met one of the two on Tinder, though, so who knows. Here’s the catch:
Every single time I restart Tinder, I get a couple of likes/matches over the course of the first day(s), but as soon as those are over, it plummets. Getting matches becomes pretty impossible and if there isn’t a suitable match, it’s fruitless and usually delete the app for a while.
I’m not ugly by any means and in real life I’m pretty sociable and likeable. The app is 100% biased for women, but what ideal type of men do get plenty of fruitful matches for a consistent period of time?
My understanding of the app is that your continued success is based largely on how well you do in those first few days. When you start a profile you’re given a certain invisible score for your profile. If you have a high score, your profile is more visible and will show up earlier on a woman’s stack when she opens the app to start swiping. If your score is low, you get buried and become less visible. The reasoning being that they want women (and men) to log on and see high quality people first. This gives you more incentive to log on because if you only saw the bottom tier, or less desirable, profiles you wouldn’t be as interested. Your score goes up when you get a like or get a match. If you match with someone who has a low score your score goes up a little. If you match with someone who has a high score, your score goes up a lot, as this indicates that this high value profile with a high score also found you desirable.
After your initial boost on the app your score is the determining factor and if you didn’t get enough matches or likes to boost your score up into the higher desirability range, you likely get buried after the boost wears off and your matches and likes will plummet as less people are seeing your profile.
There has been some statistical evidence of this, but my evidence is more anecdotal. The first time I made a Tinder profile I had some bad pictures and after 3 months I had 8 matches total. I swapped out all of those pictures with new ones and still got no matches at all. Then I restarted my profile with the same new pictures. The same pictures that got me no new matches, now attached to a fresh profile, got me to 99+ likes in 3 days and 2 weeks later I had over 70 matches with somewhat picky swiping. It seemed that adding good pictures to a dead profile changed nothing, but clearly the pictures were okay. The profile just wasn’t visible until I did a refresh, and it stayed visible because it did well in the initial period so I continued to get matches.
The apps can be kind of fucked because of things like this, but I also understand why they do it from a business perspective. I hope some of this helps.
It’s unrealistic to believe you’ll get tons of matches when only 28% of the users are women.
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> What ideal type of man gets plenty of fruitful matches for a consistent period of time?
Handsome, tall, white, and rich.
Honestly there’s no way around it you have to be above average
I would say I get a match on about 50% of the women I swipe on, but I am picky, which means I go after women that are my type, which means I’m most likely their type.
Like I can look at a girl and know if she’d find me attractive pretty much. If I swiped right on everyone it might be lower? Or higher? Idk.
You have to burn through all your swipes every day and be patient.
Those swiping apps are definitely highly biased in favor of women. If you aren’t an 8/10 or above guy in physical appearance, don’t even bother. Just try to fing girls in reality. It’s harder, but a 5% chance is better than a 1% chance.