Dating : Should I ask her out on a date?
So I met this girl like 11 months ago at school, and we’ve been great friends since. I really like her a lot. On the one hand I feel like she feels the same, on the other hand I’m insecure as shit.
She does some things that make me feel like I should ask her to go on a date with me, such as laughing at basically every joke a make (which I do A LOT), kicking or hitting me on the shoulder after I make somewhat dark joke that she laughs at. She also wanted to buy me a cake for my birthday a month and a half ago. No shops were opened the afternoon before, so she went again in the morning before school, unfortunately to find the same problem.
What makes me very insecure is that she’s one of those incredibly kind, friendly people so I feel like I may just be imagining those signs, when they are in fact normal actions.
If I do tell her about my feelings and she doesn’t feel the same, I’m gonna be facing a very, very tough time, as we’re going to be looking for some rooms close to each other in the city where we’re going to study (her idea, she asked). Plan is to do a lot of things together, such as sports, homework, cooking, etc.
We’re great friends now and as much as I would like to tell her, I don’t want to throw this friendship away. Please tell me your thoughts
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Well, if you haven’t found the rooms yet, it will not be that much of an issue if she’s not interested in you romantically and things get awkward – you can always back out of this set-up. If she’s not dating anyone at the moment, I’d totally go for it and ask her out, even if the price you could pay is your friendship. Why? Well, a lost friendship doesn’t seem that much of a loss compared to a missed opportunity in the form of a romantic relationship with a girl that you get on with perfectly. As the nike commercials say, just do it.
You have compelling evidence that she likes you, unless she is putting on a good show and you’re just a convenient fellow to have around.
You have to be willing to throw the ‘friendship’ away if you want to be her boyfriend. It’s the only way to see if she actually likes you romantically. If you pursue the passive-aggressive strategy, she will wind up in the arms of another man and you will be sad.