Dating : Stepping Up again in dating
So, basically, as the title says i’m stepping Up again in dating after some years because i had a very bad breakup and needed time to process that.
I’m 24 and as i don’t have much time to hang out to know ppl i’m using tinder. I’ve already had 2 first dates with 2 different girls, they were not that bad but both of them were just us drinking and chatting. I’m a really good-looking boy but i’m quite shy to do anything if the other part doesn’t make it clear, whereas the girl maybe expect me to be more aggressive. I noticed that it’s not only because i’m shy but i lack the esperience to act in a way that allows to get more, so i’m here to ask for how i can surpass my shyness and be more humble because both times when i went home i realized that the girl was waiting my move and i was hoping she would make the first move. What am i supposed to do to overcome this problem? Because If i go on like that i can get as many dates as i want but i don’t think that i will get a 2nd.
I’m 28 bro, when dealing with women you gotta know how to be the covert aggressor. They def will put out “feelers” for you to make the move, they won’t make it and they won’t tell you to make the move, but as you said which lets me know you got the vision, you saw the moments where they may have wanted you to step up and that’s important! Now you just gotta do it!
Think of it like this, if you misread a situation so what you never gotta see that girl again lol take what you learned from it and apply it to the next situation. I think you’re more scared of rejection than you are shy because you going on dates that’s not shy lol you don’t wanna make those moves because you thinking too much, thinking what if you reading it wrong, just go for it if you feel the vibe. You only get one shot to “impress” a woman and if you don’t then most likely her attention will switch.
It’s also that you took time to yourself, rarely do men take time to themselves and learn to be independent and how to be alone and that’s HUGE in a relationship and even in finding one. Women love the lone wolves, they don’t want a guy who depends on them they just wanna be there to help and support him along his path.
Tinder may not be the best place to start tho but if it’s working for you go for it lol just in my experience it’s never anybody worth talking to on those sites and also you’re only gonna find someone who’s “looking” on there, when you’re looking for something you can trick yourself into believing you’ve found it. Best to let these things happen organically. The best time to elevate yourself for a man is when you’re single. Start to workout, read more, save more money etc etc and you’ll notice not only will you attract more women because you feel better and are doing better but the quality of woman you’re attracting will go up as well.
Lastly man just be the best version of yourself, you’re young as hell, you believe you’re a handsome guy so just run with it! Live with your confidence don’t ever question yourself! “I don’t think that I will get a 2nd” that’s loser mentality and we don’t do that here! If we don’t get a 2nd date it’s her loss not ours! Keep your head up champ you’ll find the right one eventually. Great things come when you least expect it.