Dating : The difference between a boy and a man
Someone taught this to me and I’ve taught it to others. Just like I did, they have an epiphany after I explain to them. Here is a trick that will save you a lot of time: you can observe guys and determind whether they are a « boy » or a « man. » Unfortunately, you can’t just decide by looking at them; it takes a process of getting to know them.
It’s harder to date in high school because most of the guys are « boys. » They’re usually immature, insensitive, etc.
Gentlemen, if you want to get a girl, you have to be a « man. » You can’t just be nice and expect to swim in pussy.
Women don’t want to date a child. So don’t act like one. It is good to keep in touch with your childish side when having fun, but there are often times where it is not appropriate.
Traits of a man: mature,respectful, responsible, communicative, assertive, honest, open-minded, understanding, loyal, trust-worthy, selfless, listens, puts in effort, cares about your feelings, treats you well, etc. There are a lot more but you get the gist.
If he has the tendency to cheat, don’t even think about it. If you have to worry about him cheating then don’t even waste your damn time. Ask him what he thinks about cheating. Every man should be saying « it’s awful, » or something similar. My boyfriend spoke of cheating as if it was the lowest thing anyone could do and that anyone associating with that word is the scum of the earth. I never have to think « maybe he is cheating right now. » He had my complete trust after that.
If you ask them and they reply that cheating is bad, they would be complete hypocrites if they did it. Guys, you should do this too for the girls you’re interested in.
Men strive to become better people. They’re always trying to improve in something. It could be anything. They’re usually visiting the gym, eating healthier, trying to drink more water, honing a skill, studying, working, etc. Always strive to be the best you can be.
Boys think that they’re okay where they are. It would be terrible if you had a problem with their habit or behavior and you asked them to change it and this happens. A stubborn boy would ignore you, not listen to you, or say yes but then not do anything about it. A man would listen and because he wants to be the best person/partner he can be to his girl, he’ll do his best to improve himself.
Men aren’t toxic and petty. Do I have to go into detail?
Men are sensitive yet assertive. If they realize they are wrong, they will admit it and apologize. They will also be doing their best to see your point of view. Also they stay civil.
There are a lot of things to talk about, comparing men to boys, and in specific situations, but I hope you get the gist. Observe the way he treats people. Observe the way he treats you. Observe the way he treats his parents. Ask questions. Communicate.
I hope you can learn something from this. Sorry if it’s messy; I was just typing out my thoughts. If you have any questions, feel free to ask 🙂
You havent described a « man » you have described a good person.
Good thoughts, OP! Posts like these always help me to take inventory and see what I need to do. Thanks!
According to above criteria i am not a boy nor a man. I share traits of both. I dont think the issue in the dating world is being a man or a boy or inbetween, its just easier to identify ‘I like these traits but not those traits.’ And then finding out how genuine it is. Dating for healthy relationships is so far off from black and white, but people treat it thus.
Over to the cheating section, even if cheating is just idiocy, has there been positives that come out of it in real life? Personally i havent seen any cheating in a relationship that somehow made it stronger or better in some way. If youre committed, you dont cheat. If you cheat, youre not committed. Simple to me.
Im probably ranting at this point. I think when people are striving to be better its because they have room to grow. We all reach a plateau? (Spelling) If you are stable, supportive, constantly kept busy and already healthy in whatever ways you see fit and those around you see fit, your growth generally stops. Intellectual, emotional and connective growth have limits in each lifestyle. After that, your growth is just general living. But theres probably scenarios i cant think of.
Just my two cents, more than anyone needs lol
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