Dating : What are the « allowable » touches for a man to do to a woman on first date? Are there any which must be done?
What are the « allowable » touches for a man to do to a woman on first date? Are there any which must be done?
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What are the « allowable » touches for a man to do to a woman on first date? Are there any which must be done?
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When you first meet her don’t hug her, walk up to her slowly and pat her on the top of her head.
Handshake. Personally I don’t like when people touch me without knowing me, maybe if things go well you can try a hug or kiss, by the end of the date but if they go really well. Everyone is not like me but you don’t really want to make a mistake in case they are.
GRAB HER TITS ON THE FIRST DATE.
I get so creeped out guys constantly touching me on dates without me recuperating.. usually results to me not seeing them again.
I don’t mind a light hand on my knee if we’re sitting down. If I’m digging you, I’ll put my hand over yours. If not, I’ll find a reason to move my knee, and therefore your hand.
Depends on the woman! I’d say if you’re getting on well and she has positive, flirtatious body language, start with a deep glance, lightly touch her hands/arms. See how she responds to these, and proceed WITH CAUTION, gently but confidently. Hope this helps! Source: Female-bodied individual who’s been on dates
Everywhere is allowed, until its not.
read the signals she is giving you and be conscientious of her safety/comfort.
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First date, non-sexual touching is the best.
* hug when you meet
* touch her elbow/arms when you laugh
* ‘notice’ something on her hand, and hold her hand to get a better look
* lightly put your hand on her hip/back/arm and guide her through the door (that I assume you are holding open for her)
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Usually youre not going to get explicit permission to touch/kiss her. You’re gonna have to pay attention and read the signals Exmaple: if you touch her arm and she recoils….don’t keep touching her. If you go for a hug and she seems uncomfortable, take notice of that and probably cease the remainder of close touching until she seems more comfortable. Sometimes you might misread a signal, and that’s ok, so long as you learn from that and don’t make the same mistake(s) twice….like my mine Aziz Ansari.
Depends on the woman. Honestly stay on the safe side. On a 1st date, keep it sorta formal. Hand shake, fist bump, etc etc. Don’t go for a hug unless she initiates. Sometimes you kinda let it naturally happen, like if you force a hand shake or hug, it’s gonna make her uncomfortable. After a successful first date and you both have another planned, then in would escalate slowly. Hugs, light touches on the arm, arm around the back, etc etc. Just don’t be weird about it, keep cool and watch for any signs you’re making her uncomfortable.
Anyone got anything else to add?
Depnds on the person. You have to read your date to see if she is comfortable. A woman will laugh, smile, look you in your eyes, ask you questions, be overall enthused and have open body language such as body turned towards you, leaning into you, or arms kept at the sides. But do what you’re comfortable with. I do not think anything is wrong with touching on a first date just to establish some closeness, not in a sexual way.
I always give a hug IMMEDIATELY. It breaks the touch barrier from the beginning a little bit and I find it helps men be more comfortable around me from the start. BUT I always ask for permission first unless the man is already giving me a hug before I can ask. Watch out for other touching cues, like a shoulder or knee touch. If no touching yet, watch and see if she leans closer to you or seems to be sitting further away or with arms blocking her body in any way. Open body language. You can try holding hands if you’re walking around, but WAIT until you’re for sure she’s into you. At a restaurant, I highly recommend sitting BESIDE your date rather than across. Across is so awkward, you just stare at each other during awkward silences, and I can’t lean into you or establish physical closeness when you’re across the table from me. Btw, bars and movie theaters generally make terrible date spots. Bars are usually too loud to talk to each other and I cant talk to a guy at all in a movie theater…
If you want to go in for a kiss, you can try doing it by reading her cues or just ask. I personally appreciate when men just ask, rather than go straight in just in case the timing is wrong or I’m not prepared. Dont try to make out for your first kiss, some men have done that with me and it’s weird. Making out is for a different purpose to me, so just one kiss (it can be a deeper kiss) without using tongue. Just interlocking your lips, you can pull her close or put your hand on the small of the back… that’s enough for a first date I think. For some it may be too much, but again it depends how you feel around that person/what you’re comfortable with everyone has a different comfort level. When in doubt, just ask