Dating : What is wrong with me?
I’m a 22M and my whole life I’ve really struggled to make connections with women. I feel as if every woman who I show any interest in whatsoever ghosts me without giving me a chance or has absolutely no interest in me. Invariably I’m left with the same feeling of being absolutely worthless in the eyes of women which sabotages my future efforts at finding women.
It’s gotten to the point where I just don’t want to try any more and that sucks even more. I don’t want to go through the effort of coming up with some snappy banter on tinder just to have it fizzle out, I don’t feel like chatting up that cute mutual friend that my friends tell me « would totally like me » just to have them play the 4 day response game and honestly FUCK meeting women at bars because I feel like I’m about to die and then I’ll get laughed at.
I have no issues with my self image but this shit is bringing me to the verge of tears thinking about how many times I just utterly eat shit after thinking I’ve finally found someone.
I feel you man. Exactly same thing like you is happening or happened me. But we gotta accept that hard reality. Try to be outcome independent see if it helps ? Try to focus on money or work and see if helps ? Find something that you would love. I know words are easy but try for your own sake man.
My opinion it is hard like this to get a girl it is like a competition on the girls. You have to have something special that other guys don’t have. You got me ?
Thats only my opinion.
I’m honestly in the same place, but talking to girls without expectations and treating them how u would treat a guy u were talking to helps a lot. Obviously you can layer on flirting as things go on, but approaching girls in a friendly way without thinking about them being attractive really helps.
Read Coach Corey Wayne.
Interest is usually in them trying to find out who you are etc, but you might just be an open book and tell them everything they need to know about you- of course you can answer said questions but they should be answered with minimal revelation about yourself.
Get then to talk more about themselves and listen to it, properly listen, as what they’ll tell you will likely be tested on you later in the conversation.
Anyhow, dont let it bring you down.
Hey I’m also 22 but a girl. I’m in the same situation as you. Whenever I show someone that I’m interested in, they also leave me hanging. It sucks. I develop my anxiety of building connection with boys. I barely talk to any boys. But I hope that you don’t ever feel worthless. Love yourself and do not let your happiness depend on anyone but yourself. I’m here for you if you need someone to talk to.
bruh your 22 try being 30 without any luck….
Ok….so you are 22. You’re only 22! You literally have the next 80 years to learn and experience things. Although I know what you are going through is a painful and upsetting time, very much like a trauma. I went through it last summer and I’m 40!
There is nothing wrong with you. I would recommend that you take a break and get some interests in other areas, like school, a sports team, something.
Try going to church.
Do you have friends? Then ask yourself who are your friend. That your answer.
Are you only seeking for romantic connections with women?
I feel that the invisible rule in dating is that the more you want it the less likely you’ll get it. Not to say that you should start to take 4 days to respond to people either. But I find that when I’m the most comfortable with being single is usually when I tend to get into relationships, as funny as that sounds.