Dating : Why don’t women want to date me?
I have been single for most of my life, but have always wanted to be in a relationship. I have only had three semi-serious relationships. one when I was 16 that lasted three months. I ended this relationship because she was not mentally stable. She entered a psych hospital a year later. The next when I was 17-19 on and off, but way more off than on. I would say the time we were together would have been around 4 months if you put it together. This ended because she never really took our relationship seriously. And the last relationship was when I was 21 that lasted around 4 months. She broke up with me about 2 months in and then wanted me back. we started dating again and she put absolutely no effort into the relationship so I ended it I am now 25 and have not had a legitimate date in over a year, despite always trying to meet women. I go out every weekend with friends to try to meet new women, and have tried multiple dating apps, but nothing serious is ever the result. I will text back and forth with women who’s numbers I get at social gatherings, but nothing comes out of it. I ask them to hangout and 9 times out of 10 they will say they are busy and not suggest a different day.
I make around 70k a year, have my own house, a car, a puppy, workout everyday, am 5’9, and have a pretty average looking face. I know women find me attractive, because i have had sex with around 35 women, but very few of them want anything more. I am constantly trying to better myself, to up my value for women. I have no clue why it has been so difficult to find a suitable girlfriend.
My standards are not super high, but I would like to date someone that I at least find attractive. I take pride in my appearance so of course I would want to take pride in my mate’s.
So give it to me straight. does anyone have any idea why it is so hard for me to find love? Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I honestly have no clue what I am doing wrong.
Maybe you’re basic
It’s honestly seems like it’s the dating culture these days in my opinion. Instagram and social media has inflated alot of people’s egos and you have people now who just want attention. Plus, the dating culture is saturated with many different dating apps so girls become pickier and have an endless line of guys to choose from. Other times they use the attention they get for Instagram or Snapchat and don’t date around. Other people never want to commit these days and just hop around to the next person in line.
Well firstly that attitude. Secondly ask them out on a cop of coffee but don’t use the word « date » just go out and do fun stuff and if the chemistry is there things will surely lead somewhere. Also how much you make and your height is fucking irrelevant at least to any decent human being.
Be friends and learn about who she is as a person first
Everything seems perfect for you so why not have a gf. It could be your personality or something that turns them off, obviously nothing wrong initially meeting people it’s more keeping them then. Also side note what girl doesn’t love puppies!