Dating : How to make an effective profile????
Hey im m18 and im struggling with the dating game was in a relationship for a while in highschool then left and now ive had the worst luck idk if its my profile or just the way i look but i need help
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Avoid mirror pics and up close face pics . They’re unflattering. If there is any bitterness on your profile , remove it . Girls don’t like self deprecating men . Just write a friendly bio and SMILE in your pics .
Make sure to use multiple pictures. At least one where you can decently see your face and one full body. I’d also add some pictures where you show what you’re doing with your life (activities, hobbies,traveling) and one social picture.
Do make a bio. You could say something about what you like, value or what you’re looking for, but I would advice to keep it positive and playful.
Definitely don’t be negative. I I’ve seen men with ‘don’t swipe right if you’re not going to talk!!’ Stuff like that instantly makes you unappealing.
It helps me to think about who I want to attract. What kinds of things do you want to have in common? And then build your profile around that. Make sure your pictures are representative of you, and that they look nice. Smile. Omg smile. Show off a hobby. Add a pic of you with friends. If you have a dog, add a picture of yourself with your dog.
For your bio, write about what you’re looking for, and stay positive. Don’t try to neg your reader. Maybe add a cheesy joke. Mention some things you enjoy doing. You don’t have to be the hottest guy in the room if you can show someone why they should want to hang out with you.
The best way to make an effective profile is to look attractive in the pictures you post along with it.
First of; don’t make a profile before you actually have decent material. That is just shooting yourself in the foot as many of the people nearby will have swiped away from you before you have time to get it fixed.
Secondly there are tons of guides and videos about how to do this, so time for some research. There are some general rules that should be obvious (but apparently aren’t in my experience) such as: clear pictures with no red eyes, no drugs/drunk pics, updated pics so all pictures seem to actually be the same person, at least 1 with a good smile and NONE where you look mad/depressed.
No self deprecating crap (not even jokingly) in the bio, nothing overtly sexual, and for the love of god not an empty bio. I wish I didn’t have to say so, but also avoid stuff that can sound threatening, you would not believe the shit people write sometimes (I am so strong that I can do x to you/I own x weapon/I want to choke/smack you etc. etc.).
r/Tinder also has a weekly profile review where you can get critiqued on the pictures and bio once you’ve got something set up.
Do you workout? Perhaps a picture of you at the gym should be good. How about a dog? Get the dog in the pictures as well. You like mother nature? Then have pictures of yourself enjoying nature. Also your bio should be jammed packed with positive traits and skills. Please no deprivation jokes or sentences. That’ll do harm than good.
Take good photos and have a bio
Put a photo with a pet, a photo traveling, try if you have any friend that takes decent photos ask to take one of you, its better to have a photo taken by someone else than your average mirror selfie.
As your bio you can put something like your profession or what you study, hiking, gym, travel and foreign films. Some random stuff like that is better than nothing so a girl can have something to talk about with you.
For the pictures:
– Mirror pictures never, ever. Better with the timer and the main camera.
– Selfies are ok in limited numbers, specially if you’re showing something interesting among your face (a cool place, an object).
– Avoid staged pictures while doing activities. It’s better to look natural and « bad » than doing a perfect staged picture, looks unnatural and suspicious.
For the bio:
– Don’t fucking use quotes. No matter how inspiring they are for you, it’s lame.
– A bio follows the same rules as the police of tactical circuits: clear, concise, precise. A few good lines are better than writing a book.
– Write on a way that suits you and matches with the pictures you use: your bio is the key to success, as your pictures alone won’t be enough.
– Your bio is your personality for the women reading it, so be sure of what you want to write.
That applies to every profile, but mostly tinder
Do:
• at least 4 pictures
• one group photo (shows you have friends)
• a photo where we can CLEARLY see your face
• max 1 mirror selfie
• a good bio (hobbies, what do you want from the other person)
•pet photos (preferably with you)
•when you ask someone out make sure you have a plan (where are you going, what are you doing. Also, coffee/drinks/food is very standard, if you want to stand out plan something that has to do with a common hobby)
Don’t:
• no photos with girls (if it’s in a friend group ok, but not all girls and you)
• no quotes, random pics that don’t have you
• for the love of God, no more « hey, how are you? »
• no pet names (swettie, honey, baby girl, it’s CREEPY)
• don’t offer to go to their place or suggest they come to yours
Get some female friends to do a photo shoot with you. They know exactly what other females are looking for and can dress and pose you accordingly.
I went from zero matches to matching with tons of extremely lovely young ladies overnight.
Smile in your pics, make sure they are clear as well. Don’t put too many « activity » pics up, it just makes you look too busy (I find it off putting like I wouldn’t be able to keep up with their active lifestyle).
Have a fun and quirky bio, not a long one and add some humour. Girls like funny!
Don’t have too many group pics either, mirror pics are fine so we can see your full body but there should be some clear selfies of your face too. Good luck!
write a witty profile text. no boring generic stuff. try to express your personality.