Dating : What would you think
So my I let my boyfriend know a while ago that I never have had an orgasm through sex, just my vibrator. I told him so that we can try to achieve that together.
Well he has a scratch on his penis from us having sex (no lube). Last night he said he had a scab and wanted to wait for it to heal. I asked if we can do anything else (him giving me oral or finger), he said we both know I won’t have an orgasm that way . He said today that he feels it’s a turn off because he knows he won’t reach the goal of me having an orgasm so there is no points I told him that doesn’t help my mental block and I also like the sensation of it.
What is your opinion? It kind of hurts my feelings, like I am a freak that I can’t have one
If you orgasm with a vibrator, why doesn’t he go down on your while using the vibrator?
Has he actually tried every way he can to make you orgasm instead of being a pouty child about it not being worth it to try??
He sounds really immature. My ex would take it personally if I didn’t cum or if I asked him to do something differently during sex to make it better for me. He would pout and sulk. He was so immature it was like dating a toddler in a mans body (for more reasons than that).
I’m not sure how old either of you are but what you’re going through is 100% normal. It can take some time and communication with your partner to get there. It also helps when you feel comfortable too, and how he’s reacting isn’t helping with that I’m sure. You could try talking to him about it and why it makes him feel insecure, but if that doesn’t work you may be better off with someone who is more mature and cares about your needs.
More women don’t attain an orgasm
Many woman have the same problem(or so I’m told). Most have said using toys, and/or communicating better with their SO has changed this. Also more foreplay helps, I think.
I feel there is more we could explore together. Just made me feel bad 🙁
My ex would throw temper tantrums when I didn’t orgasm and would withhold sex for weeks or even months as a result. He also used similar lines to this guy. I ended up faking it all the time, so I could have some semblance of a sex life. Over a total of 8 years with him, I orgasmed exactly once and had to be high to do so.
Sex was so stressful due to his expectations that I started having to be under the influence to be less terrified. From experience, I would say walk from this one. It won’t get better. There are plenty of different techniques/positions he could use, but chooses not to here. If he won’t do anything with you, find someone who will. Otherwise, you might end up with bad self-esteem issues like I have from this type of thing.