Dating : Me 31M wants to end things with a date 36F because I became exclusive with someone else

Dating : Me 31M wants to end things with a date 36F because I became exclusive with someone else

Hello folks! So I was dating two girls I met online (for convenience sake lets call them Becky and Jess) and one of them whom I quite liked (Becky) recently asked me to become exclusive which makes me very happy. That said, I now have the unpleasant job of breaking up with the other girl (Jess) I was dating.

Jess was also a great person, we met up around 3-4 times and even had sex once although it was kind of disappointing because it was done after copious amounts of drinking since we had gone to a bar before and were having fun. That said, there was definitely a big cultural and moderate language barrier between us. Actually the last date we had was just yesterday to address this issue. This was the issue which also made sex kind of disappointing since we had a tough time communicating.

Anyways, when we met up yesterday I told her I was dating other people too when she asked me and she said she wasn’t dating anyone else. We had some good food, watched a movie, made out a little, and then she went home since it was a Sunday and we both had to be up early for Monday calls. Now Monday night Becky calls me and we chat for 4 hours and she asks if I want to be exclusive. I agree. I told her about Jess and she says she is fine for me to break up with her first before we see each other again.

So I need to break up with her before Friday but I don’t want to give some lame excuse nor make her feel like I was using her as a backup or something. I’ve not been in this situation before. What is the best way for me to end things with her? What should I actually say?

TL;DR – Became exclusive with the girl I liked, how shall I breakup with the other girl I was seeing without being dishonest but also not making her feel like a backup.

Thanks in advance for all your help!