Dating : I give up on dating men lol
Just when I thought I found a “normal” guy who has a job, isn’t mentally abusive, wasn’t a player, told me he wanted something serious and long term, even deleted his dating apps in front of me – welp, got ghosted! I’m not too upset, I’ve moved on, I wasn’t that into him anyways but to top it all off I just found out (after many suspicions) that he lied about his father passing away back at the end of may. There was no obituary in the newspaper or online which I thought was fishy. And then I looked up his father on LinkedIn, and his father was active on it 4 days ago. Um, excuse me what? Sir, how are you active on LinkedIn? I thought you were supposed to be dead. Wtf is wrong with people.
Just so you know, newspaper obituaries cost upwards of $500 at least where I’m from. Not always a given that people will choose to list it.
Just cuz you’re dead doesn’t mean you can’t be networking on LinkedIn #latecapitalism!
I am sure you will find the right one.
Possibly even when you have already stopped looking actively for that special someone.
Just stay openminded towards new people who enter your future life, because you never know who might be the one. 🙂
And yes, pain will be with us all, the art is to manage it and be ready for something/-one new, I think
Wishing you and everyone reading this all the best
My advice is don’t give up. As a guy I’ve been there where I’ve been ghosted by women on apps. It’s the people on there, it’s really human nature since there’s no real connection and you’re practically strangers there’s no social consequences for lying it’s not like you guys shared friends cause that wouldn’t have happened otherwise.
He could have been fishing for sympathy points but non the less for your side it sound like the mans a right bastard
I know, right? After running into guys only using me for sex, I thought I finally stumbled upon a guy who is respectful and not in it for the sex….because he’s impotent and has been avoiding sex and dating for years. Great.
Wtf, you dodged a bullet! Trust me, there are good guys! Don’t give up!
Bold of you to assume you’ll find a quality relationship through a dating app lol
I’m sorry but it’s a shit show these days. I’d botherline rather stay clear of all that headache
Don’t lose hope it all men. Most of us are normal just have to know where to look
You looked up his father on linkedin?
Wow. Just wow. I almost believe this is a troll. I can’t imagine. I’m so sorry.
For what it’s worth, dating has the same issues as Craigslist, a lot of overvalued crap because the good stuff sells quick leaving the bad to keep on floating around. It creates a survivor bias towards crappy relationships as the good ones don’t keep returning to the market. It makes the good appear to be more rare than it actually is. Good people aren’t rare, good people looking for relationships are less common than bad people looking for them by natural selection.
Hey cmon now, you can’t generalize a whole gender based on a bad experience! I’m sure you will find someone!
> I wasn’t that into him anyways
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> even deleted his dating apps in front of me
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I think he meant to say his dad was dead to him. That’s undortunate
What’s going on nowadays? Dating sucks
Maybe…stepfather?
People need to understand that both genders do that, doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl. Yes, you are free to hate that girl or that guy, but in the end it all boils down to meeting not right persona. Also, finding a SO on OLD is mostly, a waste of time.
You could always date women
Honestly, if you found a good one, you’d probably just break them. Like you were dating this guy but then you say “it’s fine i didn’t like him much anyways”.. like, what? Then why were you manipulating him into thinking you did? Even if he was great you would’ve probably just tossed him to the side when an upgrade came along.
Don’t give up, us good guys are out there.
For example, my tinder profile isn’t great and doesn’t really showcase who I am but it never would. I am an absolute gentleman but unfortunately it’s hard enough to show somebody that.
Keep searching and you’ll find somebody worth your time.
From my experience it seems as though the guys that are stable and not liars dont stand out and usually never have a chance but the opposite of guys have had 100 relationships so I think you just need to look elsewhere and look carefully
Damn that’s dark
Being a cis-het woman is like being living proof that no one chooses our sexuality, we are truly born with it. Honestly, I would not choose to date men.
I’m here for you baby…i only need you to send me $385 to pay for my plane ticket to your city and we can be together forever
WOW… I’m sorry dudette.
Guys like this make it harder for the rest of us. (Guys and Gals)
I hope his pecker slowly rots and falls off.
Um…..try normal guys????just a suggestion
« “normal” guy who has a job, isn’t mentally abusive, wasn’t a player » I don’t know where tf you live but men like this are legit around every. single. corners. Now of course, attractive ones that fit your criterias, maybe not. And they are rarely going to be on dating apps for fuck’s sake – people on these apps have the emotional maturity of a chicken
And the sad part is (I’m 21, for reference) at my age, I’m not going to be rewarded for maturity, so why the fuck would I want to act that way, when most people around my age group care more about shit like drama, sex and short-term relationships.
Funny, I’m a guy and got ghosted by a girl! Crazy how things works, right?
Yeah I’ve given up on men too…. try women
I have also given up on dating men.
Yeah guys are kinda gross bro
Me too sis, just got dumped over text just got used for sex and he got afraid of commitment :/
Can relate. Thought I found a “normal” woman. Nope. Totally emotional cut off. Even though she initiated all higher physical encounters (mutual agreement to the hotel room after almost getting caught in the car), two days after getting that night…poof. Gone. “Sorry I just don’t like you enough”. Really? Liked me enough to spend a night but not enough to actually try and make a relationship work?
Where is a normal woman who actually wants a relationship at? Even if we don’t connect, at least that is an answer. But don’t say we connect, I am great, all is good except you like me enough to have sex with but not enough to try a longer relationship?
Sorry. Very frustrating.
um… i dont mean to sound morbid or anything but like, their social media accounts could be taken over by their family or smtg. My friend died, and her mom now manages her messenger/facebook/etc…
If you weren’t that into him anyways, isn’t it for the best that it didn’t work out?
Okay its shitty to lie about a dead family member but why do so many people go digging to find out? It feels so odd to not take someone at their word when they said someone close to them died. I can understand looking the person your talking to up but why continue to dig?
He could have been a narcissist.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I mean, if you’re pan, bi, or open to not dating men, then there’s an option for you. But also, I would caution ruling us out entirely. Men like you described do exist, it just takes more work to find us, since we’re not as loud or as limitedly interested in getting in your pants as other men might be.
I also got ghosted. By a man!!! We literally hit it off so well.
That CSI level of background checks is downright impressive. I thought I was the only one!
Not all guys are shit like this…don’t give up