Dating : Currently in LDR with a girl 4 years older than me and it’s bringing discomfort to some of my friends and family
I’m an 18 year old who just graduated High School, and in a long distance relationship with a 22 year old women who is a College Senior. Some of friends thinks it’s ok while others think it’s completely creepy, awkward, and strange. But I love my Girlfriend so much and she loves me too. Do you guys think it’s strange?
It depends. Not saying this from experience with a girl, but from experience with RL. Sometimes your friends and family know you better than you know yourself, sometimes they are Jon snow (they know nothing).
Age gap of 4 years shouldn’t be too much of an issue (IMO mind you) but they may be worried because older people (men or women) have the possibility to manipulate the younger in a relationship, especially if it’s a teen like you. Some of these incidents are overhyped in media but it happens.
My advice is listen to them and have some time to think about it but don’t take one side or the other without a good reason. Generally ppl want to help but they just misunderstand
Omg This is so familiar because I’m four years older than my fiancé (I’m the older woman) and we started dating when he was 20. Not exactly the same but close. At the beginning I personally thought it might be a little weird especially when I used to visit him at college (also long distance!) and I felt like I was an older lady trying to relive my glory days with all the partying. I used to look at the freshman girls and feel like I was their grandma ( at 24!!).
None of his or my family thought it was weird but I definitely was scared of his family thinking I’m too old for him. What helped was I had a couple friends the same age as us who were also together and really happy too.
Anyway cut to years and years later we are still together and getting married soon.
So basically just do whatever makes you happy.
IMO, age range is OK. There are many 22-year-old guys dating 18-year-old girls (college and high school), and we don’t bat an eye at it, so there shouldn’t be any difference if it’s the other way around.
However, that is usually the case if the two people are more compatible in their attitude and personality. One of them is either more mature or still more like a high schooler.
The main thing I would consider is the LDR aspect, not the age aspect. These are the years when your experience in dating will develop, and you won’t get a full range of experience if your partner is LDR.
I mean chances are you’re her play thing whiles she’s out of pound town.
But hey buddy, at least you love her.
If you can’t touch, hold or be intimate with a person they’re not your SO. Just pen pals. Believe she’s getting railed out there.