Dating : 25M I have a hard time dating.
I’m turning 26 soon and I’ve never had a girlfriend before. I’m on all the major dating sites and I get usually a date every 4-6 months. Most of the time I get one maybe two dates and then it fizzles out. Sometimes I don’t like them or they don’t like me. I have asked 2 of the girls that I’ve dated that were mature enough not to ghost me, if there was anything I did wrong or weird. Both said no and that they just weren’t feeling it. I don’t think i’m physically unattractive but I know I have problems in social settings and get anxious. Post date after its done and I want I second date I let them know that I had fun and we continue talking. But everytime without fail no matter how hard I try I always get anxious when theres a large gap between the times we text. I think the worst, just like all the other times I’ve been lead on or everything seems to be going fine and then they ghost me. It crushes me inside because I’ve always wanted a relationship ever since I was in high school. I try to do other things like play sports and go to the gym to take my mind off of my crushing loneliness but once I’m back home again it all hits me.
I’m kind of in the same boat, but on the fem side. If it is of any help, that one person is out there and we all have to swim through the human population to find that person. It’s not supposed to be easy, but it will be so satisfying when it happens some day. Don’t pressure yourself, the right person will come around at the right time. Just keep focusing on improving yourself and keep talking to people to remove those anxieties. Every date teaches us something different about ourselves and what we value.
I’m 25 and I’ve been single for 3 years by choice.
You gotta meet people organically instead of basically trying to jump into talking with someone with the intention of things getting serious. I basically loved my highschool friend but she was always either unavailable or just wasn’t interested in me that way. But then of course 2 years outta highschool and shes hitting me up to hangout all the time and eventually wanting to hook up. Disnt work out. She was seeing someone and cheated on him with me. Made me feel like an asshole. But anyways things take time