Dating : Chances she’s interested?

Dating : Chances she’s interested?

Thursday evening I got talking to a girl on the train home. Her name is Amy and we seemed to get along really well. I made her laugh a lot and vice versa, and I like to think the chemistry was there.

She lives in the same area as me and it turns out we actually went to the same school growing up, though she left a few years before I started. She is in her late twenties (possibly early thirties?) and I am 21. She’s still living with parents just like me so we’re still sort of at the same  »life stage ».

The thing is that when I was getting off the train I asked if she had instagram. She said  »No, but I do have facebook ». My immediate thought was that she had no reason to tell me that. If she had no interest she would simply have said  »no, sorry ». She was also perfectly happy for us to add each other. From experience if someone isn’t too interested they’d say something like  »I don’t feel comfortable adding people I don’t know » which is perfectly understandable of course. The conversation was so good that even when I stood up to get off the train at my stop, we ended up having another chat so I had to sprint off the train before the doors closed. I asked if I could message her on facebook and she said sure.

See the thing is she is absolutely breathtakingly beautiful. Way out of my league. While I prefer older women, I understand that a lot of older women will not give a younger man a chance. Which is their choice of course but it would be another problem.

OTOH I chatted to a few (girl) friends of mine and they said they wouldn’t have acted the way she did if they weren’t interested. They said that if a guy who they weren’t into asked if they had instagram, they wouldn’t have given him another means of talking to her. The problem is she was a really bubbly person so for all I know she could just be really kind and outgoing and happy to friend any random she meets on facebook. Considering that we were in a train in public she may also have felt uncomfortable humiliating me by saying no (on that point, I made a point not to ask her until I was leaving the train, so that way if she said no and felt uncomfortable she would never have to see me again).

I want to message her tomorrow but I’m scared to take that leap of faith. My life has seen a lot of disappointment recently, not just relating to girls but I also lost out on my dream job recently in spite of doing everything right and being formally offered said job. I can’t help but wonder if disappointment is the default setting and that things just aren’t going to work out. I know I have  »nothing to lose » or whatever but all that failure, rejection and disappointment starts to hurt after a while.

Thoughts?