Dating : A very pretty girl smiled at me and said hi today…
Ok this is probably a stupid post and there’s not much point in posting this other than to just vent. With that said here it is…
Some context: I have been feeling very lonely for the past few years, and it seems each month it gets harder and harder. I don’t get much social interaction, my friends since high school are all in serious relationships and constantly flake the very few times plans are made. I live in an isolated rural area and haven’t been able to meet people my age and establish new friendships. I have been wanting to meet a girl for a long time. Though people tell me I’m a good looking guy and come off as very confident, I’m actually very introverted and haven’t encountered anyone irl that has shown interest enough for me to approach them…
Today, I went to town to run some errands. I’m driving around, in my head thinking about things when I pull up to a stop sign. It’s a busy 3 way intersection with me being the only one with a stop sign. I look left, look right, wait for the traffic to drive by, I pull out a bit to get a better line of sight, look right, there’s a truck coming down the hill to turn onto the street I’m on. I look left, and I see this really pretty girl close by walking up the hill with what appears to be her mom, they are approaching the intersection so I stop to let them cross. As I sit there the girl looks up right at me, smiles, and just stares as she crosses the intersection continuing to stare at me as she gets closer. I don’t know what to do so I just stare back and she mouths “hi” at me in a shy kind of way… I just fucking freeze… (it was just like in the movies where things go into slow-motion) I try to say hi back, nothing comes out so I panic, try to act natural and look left and right again. I see the truck is still sitting there waiting to turn and her mom is stopped on the side walk. As she passes in front of my car, her mom yells at her “you just crossed without looking!!”. I feel pretty bad because I’m sure that was embarrassing for her so I try to say “It’s okay” and wave her mom to cross. She crosses, they continue on their way, and I continue on mine…
Aghh, I honestly feel like shit because I feel this was the first time a cute girl noticed me and I couldn’t really do anything… top it off with her mom embarrassing her and it just made for an awkward moment. With that said, the fact that she stared at me for so long was so unexpected and a nice confidence boost. I hope I run into her again.
tldr; cute girl crosses the intersection without looking cause she’s staring at me and we have a moment.
It’s great this happened of course, just don’t get overly attached to this girl, she might well have thought you were somebody else, was kind or was attracted.
Instead of blaming your short comings on plans etc, when your friends flake, go to these places anyway. Because I sure hope that beats going back into a line of thought of « they’re busy, have got this and that » which is incredibly unhealthy thinking.
Start talking to people, even if they’re a complete stranger, young or old, just be friendly and go into it without worrying about what they think, even if it’s with the person in the shopping line, show interest in something they’ve got in their trolley, and start a conversation from there, and just ask them questions. People love talking about themselves and all you have to do is listen and pick up on the points of interest, try to stay away from talking about yourself without them asking, if they do, keep it brief and try relate it to your next question for them.
If the convo starts dying, then let it die, and leave it with « enjoy the rest of your day » or something along those lines.
Start doing things for yourself, Coach Corey Wayne’s 3% Man I recommend for dating, and materials related to Jordan B Peterson’s selfhelp are amazing as well in increasing self esteem.
Hope this helps.
I walked past an Asian restaurant yesterday and there was a dude in there brushing the floor. He looked up and he caught my eye and grinned at me, and then greeted me in a really cute Asian accent. It just felt so nice.
I’m a dude though and not gay ok
duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuude you’re the guy that falls in love with the stripper
Notch that point in the experience column and use that to make your move the next time a similar opportunity comes up.
Make the move next time, and find out that it really means nothing. Add that point to the experience column too.
Every point counts; make sure you try it out at least once so that you know!
Damn it man, shoot your shot!