Dating : Coffee or Drinks date? 26m
I was talking with my mom about my situation since she’s been dating as well and when I told her of my difficulties she said it could be that asking girls to get coffee is a bad idea, mainly because of the parking situation near any coffee shops in my area and because of the casualness of it. For me personally coffee is a better idea. Its less expensive, less pressure and I don’t drink often since I work nights and drinking in general for me is not something I feel comfortable doing with someone I want to date. I have to be very strict with how much I drink when I do go out. Once I have one it turns into 2 then turns into 4 that turns into 6. Ive found that drinking just isn’t for me except for rare times that I’m either at home or at a get together with friends and it can lead to embaressing situations when on a date. Am I wrong in my line of thinking?
Ya I had it with coffee date in busy places. Worst idea ever. Find a low key place to date. But u have to know the location very well.
If you’re not comfortable with the drinking date it’s going to show. Stick with coffee and if you hit it off suggest keeping the date going with a walk in the park or something.
Edit: that being said find a decent lightly trafficked coffee shop or at least one with the vibe you’re going for, aka no Starbucks.
I always go for drinks. I think it’s an atmosphere where people can relax and a drink or two definitely helps to calm nerves and make people a bit more comfortable. You don’t have to drink loads on a date two drinks and conversation is generally fine. Plus imo a bar seems more like a date venue I’d only go grab coffee with friends.
Definitely drinks, preferably in the evenings, and even more preferably in a quiet environment. I can’t tell you how many promising first dates I’ve had totally ruined by being in a loud place. Make the first drink a shot because it will quickly and efficiently ease nerves for both parties, then get something to sip on for the duration of the date.
Coffee dates are SOOOOO unsexy.