Dating : I put out on the first date. How can I redeem myself?
So I went downtown with this guy on Friday. We had a great evening with dinner and drinks, but the night was cut short because we got very drunk and decided it was a good idea to get a room.
The good news is that he still contacted me the day afterward to check in, and we ended up hanging out again last night (no sex). I still can’t shake this feeling that I might have ruined my chances.
Should I just play it by ear, or should I address my worries with him? I don’t know the best way to handle this. I just don’t want him to think that my actions that night represent who I am/what I want from the relationship.
> should I address my worries with him?
Dear god no. You will come off as insecure and clingy. That will for sure scare him off.
Just continue as you would like normal. Stop worrying about having slept together on the first date.
The fact that he still contacted you and you hung out without having sex is a good sign! Also, you’re not the only one who put out in this situation. Both of you were involved in the act, it’s not one sided!
You « redeem » yourself by not shaming yourself and clinging to outdated social norms
No offense, but this mindset is ridiculous. I wish it would go away. Your pussy is not the ultimate prize; YOU are.
Putting out on the first date doesn’t mean he wont call, it doesn’t mean he will, it doesn’t mean he wants to be with you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t. Its literally just sex. and having sex with a guy, no matter how early/late in the relationship is NOT how any woman keeps a man wanting to be with her. What makes you special, and would make him want to be with you (or even see you again), is not your vagina…every woman has one and none of them are all that special. Please strive to be better than the lowest common denominator.
So have sex whenever you want, it really doesn’t influence how much a guy likes you. You need to giving men the desire to be with you for reasons other than sex. Surely you have other things to offer?…Demonstrate who you are and what you want, (and how you will treat him) through your actions going forward.
You can’t.
He like you. How do I know. He still want to see u.
Don’t let other people judge what you want to do just enjoy yourself!