Dating : How much of sexual compatibility can be taught?
Recently had sex with a guy I’m into, got great qualities I’m looking for, but the sex was… Not great?
He was a bit rough, albeit very enthusiastic and passionate, which is nice. From start of foreplay he’d do things like man handle my boobs and touch me down there to the point it was aching and uncomfortable. He didn’t seem to know some things that other guys just instinctively do about female bodies eg paying attention to nipples rather than kneading boobs.
Ive had a fair amount of sexual experience and have been lucky to have been with men who were probably better than average in terms of sex. I can’t say I’ve ever had bad sex as its something I’ve always regarded as important.
But with him, I feel like I’m going to have to teach him – a lot.
At my age I’m not sure if I’m bothered to do this.
Has anyone had any experience with changing a partners sexual style to suit yours?
So….you have a guy you could potentially shape and mold into exactly what you want and you’re not sure you want to??
If he’s inexperienced and doesn’t want to admit it, be his Yoda and show him the way!
Get it girl!
Maybe see if he has Snapchat so you can do a bit of sexting but in a fun way? Or maybe next time initiate the sex and take on the dom role and order him to do things you like.
I think it’s all about the big C. Communication. I’d say talk about it, even in the act. I like to have some comms while I’m having sex, maybe he does too. You can’t teach chemistry. Sounds like you have it. Sounds like these behaviors are just inexperience or excited energy. I would chat about it.
Sounds like a no-go. He likes it rough and you don’t.
The first time I had sex with a particular guy (it was our second date, I have had sex with others before) he was rough and came on far too strong. So I had a talk with him about being more gentle and let him gently rub my nipples and finger me. The next time he was much better. We talked some more; he practiced some more, and it got much better.
Some men can be taught; others can’t.
Maybe he needs some limits at first so he can slow down and notice your response. Like just kissing one night. Then another night focus on something else without going further. Get him to really pay attention and there’s nothing wrong with saying « ow, gentler please. »