Dating : Is it too soon to be dating? Am I dating or in a relationship? Signs that I’m moving too fast?
TL; DR: I left my ex in May and started to date in July. Now, I find myself consistently seeing someone. Is it too soon?
After months of emotionally checking out, I finally left my drug addict fiance while he was out of town for Memorial Day. Given the situation, I had to kind of disappear… not sure if the nature of how I left should impact how soon is too soon to start dating.
Around the beginning of July, I started to go on dates here and there, but by mid-July found myself consistently spending time with the same guy. He knows why I left my ex, as I shared that baggage pretty early on. We see each other pretty consistently and aren’t seeing other people (not that we had an exclusivity talk).
Sometimes I get nervous that someone in our small town will see us and judge me for moving on too fast. Is that just anxiety? Or is it an indication I am moving on too fast? Also, I haven’t dated in a really long time… at what point do you determine that you’re exclusive or have titles?
Sorry for rambling. It’s a mixed bag of opinions from people in my life, as my friends are happy that I’m happier and safer and moved away from toxicity. Lots of lies and drama still spewing from my ex and people in his life. Wondering if anyone could provide some insight or opinions?
Oh, one bit of observation, I’ve noticed a lot of girls don’t leave their boyfriends until they already have someone in mind, who’s arms are open and waiting to fill that void. So you are already ahead of the competition in terms of waiting to move on before jumping into something else lol.
Nope, you’re perfectly fine to do whatever the hell you feel like doing lol. Small Town judgement must be rough, but on the flip side, I’ve been a city guy my whole life and I’ve never felt like anyone besides my family gave half a fuck about me. So, yeah! You do you, and do this new guy, and be happy about it!! Life’s too short to worry about what other people think (unless they are those select few people who’s opinions do truly matter to you.) Glad to hear you left your psycho ex. Too many people stay in those situations and waste far too much precious time.